Lately, I've been wondering what are the boundries of love. Meaning, what does it take to change the status of love into something else. Also I've wondered if there is a such thing as unconditional love for humans. I know God has unconditional love for us, but can we have unconditional love for other humans? Finally, I wonder, what could I forgive a relationship and what I couldn't.
Well, first off, i'm gonna try to answer my own questions. THough I know they are FAR from perfect. Would love to hear imput. *hint hint* well, I know right now I love Michelle. And as for as I know it, its conditional. Meaning, if she cheated on me, then it'd be over. Though I wonder if I could accept other things. If I don't, does that mean my love isn't as strong as I think? What should I accept and what shouldn't I? As for her, she says no matter what she'd love me, though I do doubt it. WHY? Well, what if i dated someone else and gave all my time and love to someone else. Would her love still be there even if I'm cheating and having good time with other person? She says Love is about willingness to forgive and caring no matter what. To me, I feel its more a case of dedication. Honestly, I don't know who's right, if there is a right, or if we both are correct.
As for humans in general, is it possible to love another human without condition. I do believe that parents can love thier kid unconditional. Though I wonder if they can love anyone unrelated to them without condition. Can someone REALLY love thier neighbors? Thier friends unconditionally?
On another thing, does love have a peak. Can love only go so high? Does it eventually dwindle?
Hmmmmm, not really satisfied with the structure of this whole entry. OH well. Moving on. The reason I put this whole entry is because me and Michelle talked over the phone and kinda asked me what I would forgive and what I wouldn't. Right away, I told her if she did stuff with my big brother, it'd be over. No if, and's or butts. As for anything else, I dunno. Infidelity with anyone could end it, especially with a friend or someone I know. If she told me right away, I possibly could let it slide, however, if I have to find out, I couldn't let that go. I know that about myself. I wonder if she would tell me if she did do somthing, she seems like the type that wouldn't want to tell me in order to make sure I don't get hurt and to maintain the relationship because from what I know of her, she likes to have fun but knows its hard to find someone who will truly love her.
As for what she'd forgive, ofcourse as I mentioned earlier, she said anything. I wonder about that. Could she really? Should I be like that? Is that smart of her to accept anything?
I also wonder if it is ethically wrong to test someone. As in, send someone in to check on your mate. Michelle asked me if I would test her no. *i think* Though I wonder. I say I trust her totally, and for now I do. If she made me supicous time and time again, I may. I wouldn't be mad at her if she tried the same. I know I would pass. As for her, I wonder because she is very suspecible. Her self esteem isn't the highest and if someone FINE,funny, fun and smart tried to have a go at her, I know she would be tempted. Anyone would probaly. Though I wonder if she could maintain. Like I told her, I know she wouldn't actively go for someone else, but if she was mad at me and someone was fine and fun, I think she wouldn't resist. I hope she does, but I dunno...
Ok, kinda got off track. Anyways, if you got an answer to any of the questions i posted, comment. If you have something to say about love, comment. If you have something to say about how I personally see it, comment. Keep in mind that michelle does read this and if you wanted to tell me something and not have her see it, there is private comments enabled. Well, that is all for that. ~end~
Comments (1)
True love is unconditional. What we consider love -- those flighty feelings, etc. -- is not actually love, it is lust and infatuation. Love is unconditional, otherwise it isn't love at all. Love forgives all. If you can't forgive, then it isn't love. True love is a conscious decision that you have to keep making, it doesn't just happen. It has to be cultivated and preserved.