To niels: I think that answers why I don't trust counselors. As for that commerical, it is sad. I'd probaly be sad too. We are very much social animals. For some dumb reason, we NEED intimate interaction and to be able to have someone to lean on. Why that is part of our little program, I guess you could say God makes it that way. Though that kinda sucks though, it makes us all depressed and thinking stupid thoughts. A lot of times I wish that I didn't need any interaction. I end up feeling like a wounded puppy looking for any kind of help. Anyways, gtg. I wish I had internet at home.
I wasn't really satisifyied with the answers. Maybe what I don't want to hear. Would've been nice if it seemed like they felt bad for me. *even a little* Instead, they turn the whole thing into a criticism. I know they're short on time and trying to give as many answers as possilbe and stuff. But I think it was just vague. Isn't going to make me think, "Yes, my problems are now solved. I did not know that".
I'm just skeptical of the whole thing. Maybe if I had a real psychologist examine my stress and he/she knew they were getting paid, they'd put more effort. Not like school counselors. Here, they try to get to as many people as possible. Like I'm in thier way or something. They did that to Michelle when she went on time. Plus, what can you expect, your just some student to them. They'll forget you by the end of the day. Unless I'm related to them. Then, oh, they put all this effort. They think they're doing something good or something. Pluhease. They're just helping because of stupid social requirements. Your kid/relative, you got to do more. How easy people forget they we're all humans and supposely, all children of "GOD". Therefore, we're all related. Even in the science sense, we're all related.
The more I learn in psychology, the more I think people are full of it. We all do stuff for either benefits or avoidance of fear. Sometimes we're programmed *taught* to act a certain way in certain situations. And I don't even want to get started on so-called "self-rightoues" *however you spell it* people. What sucks most is that given the power to help or hurt, I'd probaly end up doing the same thing. It's like I told Michelle, "If we got a lot of money, would we really end up helping others besides family and a few friends? Probaly not" Pathetic humans. No wonder God says, "Your good deeds are like dirty rags to me" No kidding. He knows our little hidden motivations. Scary if true..........
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Yeah, there are people that do good out of selfishness, but why should a counsellor be one of the few? Why should he care more than anyone else? Because it is his job? Maybe.
My uncle is a psychiatrist dealing with drug and alcohol addicts. You think he cares about his clients? He doesn't even care about his own family!
Maybe they'll feel a bit sorry for you and then what? Is that really going to help you? I feel sorry for the crap you are in, does this help you though?
People act on incentives and needs. once the most basic need is fulfilled another one that is more demanding pops up. Family ties have a biological and social background. Most things do, even love.
And even though you and I know how rotten human behaviour is, we are the same. We can't change our carnal impulses and we keep giving in to them, because it feels good.
Even our interest in religion is mostly because of self interest. I know mine is.
But what are we going to do about it? Sell everything and start living as pilgrims? Even pilgrims are sometimes people that already lost everything before they chose that life, or they didn't have much in the first place. Human nature is wicked..
In fact knowing what makes people tick has only helped me to become a better person. It may sound very bleak but at least it is realistic although sometimes it feels like it doesn't work this way and things as true love and true friendships exist, these are just feelings, the feelings make the real to you. But that doesn't mean there aren't any scientific processes that give you that feeling. Neither does science mean the feelings are going to go away.
I agree with your statement that it would be nice if you could switch of your social needs sometimes. But then when things are running smoothly you get a huge dosis of dopamine and you feel happy. The same reason dopamine produced when in love or when making love.
but enough is never enough and you have to go MONK to find true happyness so they say.
Jesus said how can you be happy when you are a slave of your own desires?
But can we really cast away our own desires? Shake them off and be free?
Some monks and nons may claim so, but aren't desires part of our physiological being?
The mind can be willing, but the flesh is weak. I guess that's the reason only Jesus can save you, because in the end we are all sinners.
Hmm, i'm rambling a lot, but these are things i spend a lot of time thinking about.
After all you are confronted with human behaviour every day.
And knowing all this i'm still hoping deep down inside of me that i fall in love again, that that is what i need to become happy again. Because i'm human and i feel very lonely. And no matter how hard i try there doesn't seem to be an off switch on the lonelyness emotion.
I have actually put effort into my friendship with my church buddy. We see each other maybe once or twice a week at church or bible study, with occasional extra get-togethers. What I have learned is the friendship is based on just having time together. Even a phone call to chat for a while is good. We don't have to do anything spectacular. Time is the real gift.
What if you and Michelle started taking short study breaks to just take a walk, cuddle, or play a game? Even just making a snack like microwave popcorn and eating it together can be fun.
I dunno. That's just how it seems to me. Which, btw, I'm sorry about not giving you more time. It's been a bit hectic. I'm still trying to get the time thing down, and I'm still far from perfect. But isn't that the whole point of life, that we try?
>^..^<
*hugs*
~Chrissy~