I find myself (like many really) trying to help where it isn't asked for. Even in casual conversations, I tend to try to convert a faulty way of thinking or interpret why that person has come to feel a certain way. I still have to remind myself that not everybody is as eager to solve what ailes them. Moreover, some people just don't want to change. If someone likes what they're doing and doesn't want to change.... your as likely to change them as politicians are to change Washington. Anyways...
While reading my psych book, I got a good idea for a novel. Many times, a patient is talked about as having such and such thoughts and obessions. Well, I think those underlying desires would make for good reading. The resolution could use the recommended treatment. I won't go into too much detail now, but the character could be a down and out person who finds love. (or meaning, as that is less trite) Have the character find a bigger goal or meaning than self and you have the makings of a touching tale. I think it speaks of a yearning in many to be unselfish and make a difference. I think we're all disappointed in the way this world turned out to be. *remember the optimism, openness, and niceness you had as a child?* Remember how you thought the world was wonderful and how anything was possible? I think people also have a sense of not only wanting to do the right thing but to fight evil. Though now it seems we get confused in filling our own needs do that which is right. Ofcourse doing the right thing makes sense, but emotionally, it seems people are fearful of getting taken advantage of as that is what happened when you were little. *offer some candy to a few friends and soon there wasn't enough for you* I think you see these hopes and conflicts in movies, books and music replayed over and over again with just a taste of novelty.
Seems people want to feel uplifted without doing the actions that lead to such. I think this perpetuates the empty feeling loop. They listen to some song or speech (or sermon) even, and since their distress is alleviated, they don't continue it. I think it explains the utter yearning that is evident in so many. There is too much reward for just being. I think this really explains America's narcissism epidemic. *yes i said epidemic* There is so much wealth that when we feel the least bit down, we can avoid making a real change by simply buying some chocolate or purchasing some CD. At the same time, seems people buy into this myth that someone will save them. That somehow, some way, someone will come into thier lives and make all their problems go away. *maybe this is more young people, look at the barack obama movement* Ofcourse, its more common for people to think a girlfriend/boyfriend will find out who they really are and bring out their best qualities. Seems people look outside instead of in for change. "if only I had...... my life would have meaning" Funny how most people actually get what they always wanted only to want more. The ego however always wants more. Like what kaliko said joyce meyers said "what about me, what about me"
I'm not a religious person anymore, but I think that "what about me" cognition is the devil. That and inaction. Want real change in your life? Stop waiting for someone else to bring it to you and instead, go out there and be the change that you wish to see. Take chances and connect with your fellow human beings. No more feel good for doing nothing. Stop reinforcing your own misery.
Like this entry? If so, go back an entry and read that as well as it is dealing with similar stuff. Besides that, do what you always knew you should be doing.