Pragmatist
Pragmatist

Just kvetching
Wed Aug 18 2010

Back in November 2008 I had a bowel perforation that required emergency surgery.  I came home with a colostomy bag, and kvetched about that. Then had two more visits to Emergency with raging infections. Then in May I had the colostomy takedown, and came home with no bag, but another midline surgery. I kvetched about all the pain and "accidents" of the bowel learning to do its job again.

This is kind of an Ugh entry, so it's OK to delete right now. In fact it would have been OK if you hadn't even opened this entry. But I gotta complain some more.

As a result of the two midline surgeries, I have a serious intestinal hernia. The gut hangs out like a beer drinker's belly. I feel like I'm 8-1/2 months pregnant, although fortunately a baby isn't resting on my bladder.. I've tried two different belly bands and a body suit to give me support.

As it happens, having these items tight enough to give me any kind of support ends up making me feel miserably bound up, and my back aches. But without these supports, at the end of the day I feel even worse!

There are times when I want to find a hole and pull it in after me.

Yeah, yeah, I know there are people who have much worse problems than that, but I'm talking about ME here. So bear with me while I moan and groan.

I could easily fit into size 12 clothes now, except for the belly hanging out. If I wear something that accommodates the belly, then it's too big everywhere else. Drat drat and drat!! I'm looking for some maternity trousers for the cold weather. I don't want to pay full price, but haven't found anything that suits me in the thrift shops. I'll keep looking. Or send my friend Becke looking for me. She always finds great things at great prices. Don't know how she does it.

OK, I think that does it. Feel free to tell me I'm an idiot.

 

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8 Comments
  • From:
    Dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Aug 19 2010
    This is your diary.. you can write whatever you need to..
    I kvetch about much less..
    How totally frustrating. Wish I had some answers for you.. but, alas, here is a hug
    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{you))))))))))))))))))
    xox
  • From:
    Mamallama (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Aug 19 2010
    Kvetch away, dear Prag. You've been through so much the past couple of years you have the right to kvetch BIG TIME.
    Sending you BEAR hugs, but gently.
    Love, Tiggs
  • From:
    404Error (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Aug 19 2010
    I'm dealing with almost exactly the same body proportion problems now that I've lost so much weight. My butt, arms, and legs are little but my belly/waist is huge. Nothing fits. I've always been built this way to some degree, but it's much more extreme now. This is the first time I've been under 200 lbs. since the gall bladder surgery in '99.

    My mother, always one to go to extremes, told me she's ordered me pants in a size 12. Now, I know I can't possibly fit my belly into them, but I can't convince her. She is too shocked by the sudden realization that I'm smaller than she is, for the first time since I was about twelve years old. When they don't fit she'll probably tell me in some put-upon way that I can send them back if I want, but what *she would do* (yeah, right) is that I just wear them under my belly, or something else stupid and uncomfortable.
  • From:
    Wrenchman366 (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Aug 20 2010
    yes you are right the humidity is horrible in addition to the heat, I figure 1 hour per evening should be enough to get this load split and stacked but at least I have time beginning this early.
    Tim
  • From:
    Mamallama (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Aug 20 2010
    Interesting? I'll say. :o)
    What are they thinking? Did they poll everyone and found that everybody that lives nearby are insomniacs?
    I hope it is a short repair!

    RYC - I feel like I've run out of things to say on DD. *shrugs*
    Most of my family are on Facebook, including me.
  • From:
    404Error (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Aug 20 2010
    RYC: Yes, I suppose I could sew a maternity panel into my pants. I'd just been trying to avoid that. Dresses are easy-- shapeless works for a multitude of sizes and fits for a very long time.
  • From:
    Camomille (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Aug 26 2010
    Hey there. I hope you do have some luck finding some clothes you are comfortable in. The maternity clothes idea is a good one. A lot of things don't look like maternity clothes at all.

    Physical pain and discomfort just puts a damper on things, as we have talked about before. I remember the days of my constant pain and discomfort with my back problems and I am so grateful that is in the past, I thought it would always be with me. However, I'm sitting here with monthly cramps right now and it is not fun so I have a very small appreciation for what you are saying, though not to the same degree. I hope you find some comfort.

    About all the noise and disturbance . . . that would stress me out something awful! I hope it doesn't last long.

  • From:
    DancingButterfly (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Aug 26 2010
    can't you have surgery to repair the hernia? It's not good for you, your comfort or your back :(