Pragmatist
Pragmatist

Megan and a new home
Mon Jun 23 2003

Once again I'm frustrated by a child. First, I couldn't nurse Stevie because of breast abscesses. Then Andrew bit me, and I quit before I really wanted to. Now Megan refuses to nurse. Absolutely will not take the nipple!! In fact, she doesn't even much like being held.

She's doing a pretty good job of letting Mommy sleep during the night, but naptime is pretty much a hit or miss thing. I can't enter the bedroom when she's supposed to be napping, because the slightest sound wakes her. If I want to put away laundry, forget it until she wakes up.

I am so frustrated, and so tired. I take myself to my doctor for a 6-week checkup and find out my thyroid activity is practically in the basement. Ah, that explains the fatigue, and all the rest of the symptoms. Soon I begin feeling better, but Megan still won't nurse.

Our pediatrician is a long-time friend of Stan's...middle school, high school, fraternity brother, and his advice is give her a bottle. And don't feel guilty about propping it. Well, I do feel guilty, but since the baby doesn't take kindly to being held, I give her a bottle and prop it on a rolled up blanket. Works fine.

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Time passes. Steve is eight, Andrew is almost three when Megan is born. In about six months it's time to move baby out of the parental bedroom, but where? Well, since we're renting, it seems logical to look for a larger house. To buy, I hope. (Oh, I forgot to mention, the landloard wasn't really the landlord--just the property manager.) Anyway, he shows us one of his properties that's for sale, in the same general neighborhood, but it's another three bedroom. And the paint job ... oh! I hate to put it in words. Shiny enamel walls. Nile green and apricot in the living room. He can't understand why we're not interested in another three bedroom. We NEED another room.

Well, Stan doesn't have the time or interest in looking for a house, and besides *I* have to be satisfied with the house, so why don't *I* go with the real estate lady and check out what's avaiable. OK, by me.

She shows me some lovely Craftsman homes in a very nice neighborhood, but they're beyond our price range. Finally, we go out to Orange County where there are still some big empty spaces being filled up, but instead of a brand new home, I find an almost new house that I like a lot. We can take over the VA loan, and the price is right. Although the commute is a little longer in miles, it actually doesn't take but a few more minutes to get to the school.

The property is within a block of the elementary school, and another block to the middle school. Perfect. It has a large fenced back yard, with a huge maple tree. Perfect. The kitchen is a large "country" style kitchen. Perfect. Four bedrooms, two baths. Pefect. Two car garage. Pefect. Hookups in the garage for washer and dryer. Perfect.

And the Credit Union is willing to finance the down payment, and the bank thinks we're a good risk. We have a home. Oh, glory!

The boys share the largest bedroom, the parental bedroom is second largest, and the two others are about equal in size, so Megan gets the bedroom next to the boys, and Stan's room is next to our bedroom. Everything fits.

Next - more about scholars.

6 Comments
  • From:
    Ozone (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Jun 23 2003
    No need to apologize, it happens to the best of us :)....anyway....it seems like <speaking like a Marine> every time you step in shit...you come out smelling like a rose :P
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Jun 23 2003
    isn't it fun looking for houses by yourself and making all the decisions!
    i got to do that with my home, it was one of the most fun things i've ever done, except for the fact that i had a time limit so that got a tad stressful in the end
    your new home sounds positively dreamy :)

    sez

    p.s. i don't know what happened but i didn't get any notifying emails for these last 2 entries
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 24 2003
    that must have been great, growing friendships

    sez

    p.s. i don't regularly read all the journals on my list btw, they are simply people i've come to know over the few years i've been on here. some of them don't even write much anymore, others i check in on now and again :)
  • From:
    CovertOps (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 24 2003
    Dear Chaya,
    Navigating DD and customizing your Diary takes getting used to. Pretty soon you'll be web and DD savvy. All it takes is time. In the meantime, you continue to delight us readers with your stories.
    I'd love to go to school in Westminster if the children are as bright and mature and open-minded as you describe. School life was a bleak record of near-misses and bullying for me. Boys teased me and called me names like 'tomboy', 'butch' and 'faggot woman' all the time. Extramural activity (clubs & societies) was the only thing I truly enjoyed and excelled in.
    I'm glad your boys agreed to share a room. Sibling rivalry is common even in children who have their own rooms, so if the boys ever quarreled, it's probably nothing to do with sharing a room. I shared a room with my twin brother until we were 11. It was great. We stayed up all night reading by torchlight and telling each other spooky stories every night.
    Megan was a sensitive baby. that must mean she's an intelligent and alert adult now. :o) Please say Hi to her for me!
    Love,
    E.L.
  • From:
    Monstergue (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 24 2003
    Hi,
    My Aunt Sharron lives in Orange. I will be seeing her next week if all goes well. She is my fathers eldest sister but only 8 years or so older than my siblings (who are 11, 13, & 15 years older than I am).

    I have only been out there once, when I was a child. What I remember was lovely but I would like to see it from the vantage point of an adult.

    Take Care,
    Bobbi

    P.S. as you already know, some babies refuse the breast *shrug*. Thank goodness for formula and something to prop the bottle on....
  • From:
    Freddi (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Jun 25 2003
    wow, how cool is that for the respect to go both ways. thats awesome!