Pragmatist
Pragmatist

Q & A with the surgeon
Tue May 05 2009

"That" time is fast approaching, and I had questions I wanted the surgeon to answer for me. I'm talking about the surgery to reconnect the ends of the colon that were separated in order to repair the perforation of the bowel.

I described what I thought the procedure would be, and he told me that was exactly right. We discussed the sigmoidoscopic exam that would precede the surgery, and what it would tell him about the condition of the lower extremity.

Doctor's earlier instruction said that I should expect to be in the hospital for a week. I suggested that was to make sure that the connection was secure--no leaks. Correct. And he added that I should be eating, pooping, and have no fever. When all four of those criteria were met, then I'd go home.

I asked when I could drive and when I could start abdominal exercises to get rid of this Santa Claus belly. He said that was pretty much up to me. But he did suggest that the first time out driving I should have a passenger who would critique my driving and help me decide if I was up to it. He said I must be ready for a panic stop: the little boy runs in front of the car, and I have to slam on the brakes. Do I worry about the sudden pressure of the seat belt on my sore tummy? If yes, then I'm not ready. If I don't even think about it, then I'm ready.

Same thing with the exercise. If I feel ready, then I am.

I expressed some nerves about the coming surgery, and he said that if I didn't have some anxiety, he'd worry about me. He said that since I am feeling some anxiety, that means my brain is connected. He said I should be nervous. This is major abdominal surgery, then he described the incisions he would make. Three of them.

Isn't it odd that the description of the incisions didn't bother me, but the opening of the abdomen is causing me considerable concern. I didn't have time to worry about it when the emergency surgery was done. It was too fast, and I was too sick. But now I can think about it, and think about and think about it some more.

How soon will I go home? How soon will I mend? How soon will I get my strength back? When will I be able to drive over to Santa Rosa again and see My Baby?

And then I have this uneasy feeling that I don't have a whole lot of time left. I still have a lot of living to do., but how much time do I have to do it? I will fight to live, of course. But when you've already lived fourscore and a little more, time does seem to accelerate. Alarmingly.

I asked him directly and he answered affirmatively: Are you a God-fearing man? So I concluded the interview by saying that we would put his surgical skill and my life in God's hands.

Wish me well on 14 May.


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9 Comments
  • From:
    JonothanMA (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue May 05 2009
    I wish you the best of luck and smoothest of operations on the 14th. God bless you.
  • From:
    Yetzirah (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue May 05 2009
    I wish you more than well. A complete and speedy recovery! Amen!
  • From:
    Wrenchman366 (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue May 05 2009
    My thoughts and prayers will be with you on the 14th my friend and if possible try to have someone update so we know how the recovery is going (((HUGS)))

    Tim
  • From:
    Welshamethyst (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue May 05 2009
    Of course our love and prayers will be with you on the 14th. You had a choice to make about the surgery and the kind of life you want to live and you made it. Like you said, give it over to God and go from there.

    Hugs & Love
  • From:
    Dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue May 05 2009
    I always wish you well.. but will say a special wish prayer on the 14th..
    You know, i sure do agree about how time accelerates as we age.. time from last mothers day to this has just flown.....


    Much love to you, dear friend .. and your doc is right.. Your brain is attached and working fine....
    hugs
  • From:
    Mamallama (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue May 05 2009
    Wishing you all the best:
    God's hands on the surgeon's,
    a complete and speedy recovery,
    little or no pain.
    Many prayers will be coming your way.
    Love and hugs, Tiggs
  • From:
    Dustbunny3 (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed May 06 2009
    You have all bases covered. Sounds like a super surgeon and you are a very strong dear lady. Your mind is still in top shape I will be walking the hall with you that is a must as you well know .
  • From:
    404Error (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed May 06 2009
    You will _ALWAYS_ be in my heart and have my best wishes and most especially on the 14th.

    (((love & hugs)))
  • From:
    CovertOps (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed May 06 2009
    Chaya, I am sending you all my love and prayers. Praying for your speedy recovery. Love you very much. Take good care of yourself. My animal babies and I are all clasping our hands together in prayer.