Pragmatist
Pragmatist

Pasadena - the girls
Tue Jun 17 2003

Comments to comments to my diary of yesterday. Yes, we've come a long way, but there's a lot more to do. There are some neighborhoods here that I wouldn't venture into at night.

It seems to me that people just naturally segregate themselves into neighborhoods. Little Italy, Chinatown, Little Saigon, Japantown, etc. My grandparents were first generation Americans, but they still clung to their German village ways amd their German friends. I read some time ago that the largest population of Vietnamese, outside of Vietnam, was in Westminster, CA.

But what troubles me is not the natural social gatherings. It's still the White/Black relationships. There's a lot of resentment among *some* of the Black population against the Whites. Slavery is not dead. It remains in the minds of people. And there's still the slave mentality among some Whites.

There's a lot of resentment in California between Anglos and Mexicans-Chicanos-Latinos (whatever group they ally themselves with). We Anglos forget that the M-C-L populations predated us by a couple centuries. Their lands were taken over by the Anglo government.

There's still work to be done.

End of sermon.

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Rosalie and Cathy keep asking to babysit. Telephone call: "Mrs. Long, are you and Mr. Long planning to do anything this weekend?"

"No, why do you ask?"

"Well, we want to babysit. Why don't you go out to dinner, or a movie, or something?"

From the beginning, they wanted to babysit. They like Stevie, think he's just as cute as can be, but it's the baby, Andrew, they want to play with. I remind the girls that they're welcome to come over any time and play with the baby as long as he's awake, and sometimes they do come over after school.

So when the budget isn't too tight, we take advantage of the free babysitting and go out for dinner. Sometimes, we just go visit friends. Believe me, it's a real treat to have some time alone with my husband.

So, on the evenings when we decide to take advantage of the free babysitting, I pump some breast milk and put it in a bottle in case Andrew needs to be fed while we're gone. The girls are very responsible, and we promise to be home in time for their "curfews" so their parents don't get upset. When we get home from our nights out, Stan delivers the girls directly to their homes. Wonderful setup we have.

But there are changes coming. Stan is very happy in his job. He enjoys teaching, and he enjoys the bright kids who are eager to absorb everything they can. They are polite, their parents are cooperative, and the administration is very fair with the teachers. However....

Stan is an only child, born about 10 years after his parents married, and he's becoming concerned about their health. And who will take care of them if one of them gets sick. So we're thinking..........

Well, more about that next time.

Shalom.

6 Comments
  • From:
    Yetzirah (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 17 2003
    I feel a change blowing in the wind ! :-)
  • From:
    Ozone (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 17 2003
    You are getting really good at this suspense thing Chaya....I am thinking that there is a BIG scoop coming here soon.

    I like your sermons.
  • From:
    CovertOps (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 17 2003
    What a good, filial son Stan is!
    And how wonderful of the girls to be so helpful! I wouldn't charge a thing either to babysit if I know anyone who needs to go out for the night or weekend. However, babysitting's not a big thing with Asian families. People bend over backwards to make sure their child can come with them wherever they go. The problem with that is that you get screaming, hungry, frightened children in dark theatres and fancy restaurants.
    About the Black-White divide, I heard a black friend say once that he'd never work for a white employer because he didn't want to be an Uncle Tom. It's sad that he chose to limit his career options to companies run only by colored people. He should be more far-sighted.
    Love,
    E.L.
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 17 2003
    i too am disturbed by the racial undercurrents that still exist in this day and age. thankfully its not really a problem here, but it does still exist in very minor ways
    as for your enthusiastic babysitters, what a blessing that must have been! i don't know whether i've met anybody who's begged to babysit before

    sez
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jun 17 2003
    :)

    here's another story about anna-frid and her father:

    http://www.observer.co.uk/europe/story/0,11363,746740,00.html

    if you do a google search under 'abba lebensborn' or something close to that, i'm sure there'll be other stories. from what i've read they haven't kept contact as he arrived into her life too late to really feel like a father. i can relate as i had similar struggles meeting a birthmother at the age of 21, there's a lot of emotion unleashed and conflicting feelings as you meet this person who gave birth/fathered you
  • From:
    TraumaMama (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Jun 18 2003
    You ARE getting good with the suspense!