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My Rock is being uprooted
Thu Apr 13 2006

Or maybe this should be titled Mood Indigo.

My Rock. My confidante.  My Helping Hand.  The One Who Keeps My Head on Straight.  My Friend In Need.  My Moral Support.  My So Many Other Things.  

My daughter.

Dropped a bombshell on me today.

By the first of July she plans to move to Washington.  She had plans to move there when she retired, but she's at least 20 years from that.  The company she works for has a branch in Seattle, so there's no problem with a job when she gets there.  She plans to live in Vancouver.

Can I describe the shock?  I burst into tears, and I'm about to start dripping again.  It feels like something has been ripped out of me.  I figured that in 20 years I wouldn't be around to miss her when she moved.  But this!

She helped me after I'd had cataract surgery (twice).  She was with me after my two mastectomies.  Taking care of me when I had the flu, or other indispositions.  Always available when I need help of any kind.

How can I manage without her?

I'm devastated.

7 Comments
  • From:
    Allimom (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Apr 13 2006
    The branch is in Seattle, but she plans to live in Vancouver? Does she realize how far apart they are (both of them, Vancouver WA and Vancouver BC)?

    You could always move up with her (separate homes of course). It's much cooler up here during the summer as you know!
    Alli
  • From:
    Calichef (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Apr 13 2006
    It will be ok. I can be at your doorstep in about an hour-- and WILL be. No need to worry. I can stay as long as you need me. Our money situation is easier now and I will keep enough gas in the car to get there at all times. It's the least I can do.
    Love,
    ~Cali
  • From:
    Welshamethyst (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Apr 13 2006
    (((((((((((HugeHugs)))))))))))

    I am as shocked as you are and wondering at her choice of timing. Why would she move to Washington and leave her 80 year old mother to fend for herself both emotionally and physically???

    I will call you in a couple of days, after you get over the initial shock so that I don't cause a torent of tears.

    Love you
  • From:
    DancingButterfly (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Apr 14 2006
    I hope you'll be okay. She does have her own life, you know. I'm sure she'll always come back when you need her. Hang in there and everything will be okay :)
  • From:
    ImNotLisa (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Apr 14 2006
    Oh boy, that is going to be a huge change! Perhaps the more she thinks of it she'll change her mind. I hope she will.
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Apr 14 2006
    my thoughts are with you, dear chaya, what a shock

    love sez
  • From:
    Dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 17 2006
    oh kay.. I did the backtrack. washington is nice.. and you can visit her there. it isn't like she is moving across the country.. its just up highway 101.. oh chaya.. then you can stop in an stay with me and .. well..
    you'll be okay.. but I am a bit worried.. what with your health lately.. and how she is your only child nearby.. maybe you should move with her....???
    Is that a possibility???
    I guess she has an opportunity with this job.. that makes it worth the move.. and the kids will do well in washington.. but damn they are gonna miss grandma chaya..
    ;(