It was his idea to do the dishes while I do all the cooking. That was fine with me. I even got the dishwasher fixed so that he wouldn't have to handwash dishes. All he'd have to do is get them into the dishwasher and then put them put away. He says he prefers to do dishes by hand though, and has never used the dishwasher, though I have on a few occasions.
Last night I tried to tell him that I wanted to "take over" the kitchen. I told him he could do anything else that appealed more to him around the apartment. *He* refused. Said I was already doing too much, holding down a full time job that racked up fifty or more hours per week, cooking all the meals, doing most of the laundry (he doesn't seem to "get" sorting the clothes, so we settled on me doing the laundry) ... you get the idea. He was upset that I didn't want him responsible for the dishes any more. He swears he'll change, that the bed will be made when he gets up, that the dishes will be washed before I get home, that he'll start picking up the slack around the apartment without procrastinating. But he's doing it because I got upset, not because he wants to. And he'll end up resenting me for it. I know how this game plays out.
Last night we ended up renting a movie at nine in the evening. We didn't start watching it until after ten, because he decided that we had to have the sound routed through the stereo speakers, and then he couldn't find a cable long enough to accomplish that. The stereo equipment had to be rearranged so that the cord he did have would reach.
I really didn't want to rent a movie. I wanted to go to bed at ten, so I'd get eight hours sleep. But I knew if I went to bed then, I'd be doing it on a sour note, and that he'd end up stewing all night. And I didn't want to do that to him. I really hadn't counted on having to hook up the speakers to the VCR, though. The Professor seemed content that the storm had blown over when I finally got to bed, so at least I was able to make him feel more secure. But I can't keep going through this.
I really don't want to go home this evening.