Today I’m writing all sorts of pieces unrelated and irrelevant, serious and not that serious. Find the one for you…
My neighbour use to say: life is easier for cynics. I’d like to agree with him. Being a dreamer doesn’t give you any advantage in the chess game with life. Being cynical is being realistic. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. I used to believe in the law of "attraction". If you concentrate on something you want, you will get it eventually…or the more you’d think that something bad might happen, more real it might become. In my life one “bad” thing I never thought of was that my husband would not stay with me “till the end of time”…how does that illustrate the law…the only person whom I swear with my heart and soul would never do this…how ironic it is that now it is me who has to learn to “think positive”…yeah, take off my rosy glasses, throw them down and stomp on them then tell me: look how beautiful this world is…so what’s changed? ME. Of course it is not the world. It is me seeing it now in a different light. Maybe this is not the correct light again, and I’m sure opened to the alternative views. Yet right now it is what it is and I don’t feel I should do anything about my attitude. Right now it is the one that helps the most…
Can’t understand why people are so obsessed with relationships… Here is the “cheat sheet” for this lesson…use it, while I’m feeling generous enough to share...
What is the point to “have love” for somebody if you do not let them know? What is the point to “keep them in your heart” or “think of them always”…no one knows what you have unless you share it, nobody can read your mind unless you tell them what you think. You don’t ask of another to “understand how you love them”, you touch them lovingly, you say to them that you love them constantly; you do not hide your love as if it is something embarrassing to have. You should not be ashamed that you love. If you love, you share. If you do not share, then you do not love another, but love yourself being in love. As simple as that. You do not love them for what they do for you, not even for the shoulder they might be, not for the guidance they might provide. Not for the help they might offer…these all are just fringe benefits you might or might not get with “the package”…but you love some one for they make you the person you are. So if you don’t like yourself, don’t like what you are, you don’t truly love those who surround you with love. You just love your own sensations of being loved.
Love by itself should not be a negative emotion, should not bring tears or pain or anger. All this negativity in love comes from within yourself. You feel unhappy not because someone makes you feel unhappy, but because you allow yourself to be vulnerable to unhappiness when you are with them. Love should be a sharing of good things. Take from another only what makes you feel good, leave aside what makes you feel bad. Like in that song…Have my love, use it while it does you good, share my highs but the times that it hurts, pay no mind the pieces you don't need are mine…
Stop agonising about what do you have to do, how to change for the better for someone, because if you do change, it will be the “better “of your own perception, the changes that you think you need…they are most likely not the same one as in another's mind…you do not have to do anything to “deserve” love, to be worthy of somebody’s love. If they love you, they love you as you are. If they don’t love you, no change will make them.
There is no such thing as “inability to love”. Everyone is capable of loving. But we all have our personal boundaries on how to express the love we have. The more we open ourselves to show love, the more love we will see…I like this quote from Rumi: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
To my dear self – a mental note on your fridge:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
One has to have a good sense of humour to live in this country. I’ve ordered new TV and the delivery was scheduled for today, Monday the 9th. On Saturday my sleepy dream was rudely interrupted by the door bell – they deliver my TV two days before the arranged time! And I just loved the explanation: “because we are behind in deliveries, we decided to deliver some orders beforehand”…hmmm…perfectly logical, isn’t it?! LOL In any case it was a nice surprise for my weekend and I had fun playing with my new toy!!! ...Electric cooker, you are the next one out!
My neighbour use to say: life is easier for cynics. I’d like to agree with him. Being a dreamer doesn’t give you any advantage in the chess game with life. Being cynical is being realistic. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. I used to believe in the law of "attraction". If you concentrate on something you want, you will get it eventually…or the more you’d think that something bad might happen, more real it might become. In my life one “bad” thing I never thought of was that my husband would not stay with me “till the end of time”…how does that illustrate the law…the only person whom I swear with my heart and soul would never do this…how ironic it is that now it is me who has to learn to “think positive”…yeah, take off my rosy glasses, throw them down and stomp on them then tell me: look how beautiful this world is…so what’s changed? ME. Of course it is not the world. It is me seeing it now in a different light. Maybe this is not the correct light again, and I’m sure opened to the alternative views. Yet right now it is what it is and I don’t feel I should do anything about my attitude. Right now it is the one that helps the most…
Can’t understand why people are so obsessed with relationships… Here is the “cheat sheet” for this lesson…use it, while I’m feeling generous enough to share...
What is the point to “have love” for somebody if you do not let them know? What is the point to “keep them in your heart” or “think of them always”…no one knows what you have unless you share it, nobody can read your mind unless you tell them what you think. You don’t ask of another to “understand how you love them”, you touch them lovingly, you say to them that you love them constantly; you do not hide your love as if it is something embarrassing to have. You should not be ashamed that you love. If you love, you share. If you do not share, then you do not love another, but love yourself being in love. As simple as that. You do not love them for what they do for you, not even for the shoulder they might be, not for the guidance they might provide. Not for the help they might offer…these all are just fringe benefits you might or might not get with “the package”…but you love some one for they make you the person you are. So if you don’t like yourself, don’t like what you are, you don’t truly love those who surround you with love. You just love your own sensations of being loved.
Love by itself should not be a negative emotion, should not bring tears or pain or anger. All this negativity in love comes from within yourself. You feel unhappy not because someone makes you feel unhappy, but because you allow yourself to be vulnerable to unhappiness when you are with them. Love should be a sharing of good things. Take from another only what makes you feel good, leave aside what makes you feel bad. Like in that song…Have my love, use it while it does you good, share my highs but the times that it hurts, pay no mind the pieces you don't need are mine…
Stop agonising about what do you have to do, how to change for the better for someone, because if you do change, it will be the “better “of your own perception, the changes that you think you need…they are most likely not the same one as in another's mind…you do not have to do anything to “deserve” love, to be worthy of somebody’s love. If they love you, they love you as you are. If they don’t love you, no change will make them.
There is no such thing as “inability to love”. Everyone is capable of loving. But we all have our personal boundaries on how to express the love we have. The more we open ourselves to show love, the more love we will see…I like this quote from Rumi: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
To my dear self – a mental note on your fridge:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
One has to have a good sense of humour to live in this country. I’ve ordered new TV and the delivery was scheduled for today, Monday the 9th. On Saturday my sleepy dream was rudely interrupted by the door bell – they deliver my TV two days before the arranged time! And I just loved the explanation: “because we are behind in deliveries, we decided to deliver some orders beforehand”…hmmm…perfectly logical, isn’t it?! LOL In any case it was a nice surprise for my weekend and I had fun playing with my new toy!!! ...Electric cooker, you are the next one out!