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NO meaning YES
Thu Sep 30 2004

What people say, what people do, and what they say they do are entirely different things. What women say and what they do is absolutely impossible to guess. Sometimes even for the women.

The Dictionary of Arguing with Women says:
If a woman says 'no' she means 'maybe', if she says 'maybe' she means 'yes', and if she says 'yes' she is not a woman!

Yes, women ARE the masters of the NO meaning YES game

Just trying to think - why...Why the nature made us so indecisive? Why even when being driven into a corner, women would try to leave "the second option" for herself? What makes us so unsure in ourselves?
Alternatively, if we are pretty confident in self, then why can't we make a clear statement to others?

One thought comes to mind: in social-wise aspect it is considered inappropriate for the woman to say "yes" for the first response. Therefore one should always ask twice. Or more, depends on a woman. So little "no" with a meaning of "yes" plays a role of "social propriety".

There is only one moment when women actually mean "yes" when they say "yes" - their own wedding.

I think that it is not a defect of a nature, but rather cute feature of women's brains to say and mean different things. Just to think of it - how boring men's life could be, if everyone would say what they really mean. The process of guessing the "correct" answer seems like a dance around the fire with a blindfold. One wrong step and it gets too hot...or too cold...But still - lots of fun in a dance moves...

If it annoys the other half of a mankind - tough. Not making bold decisions is our way to be flexible. In the end of a day: it could be not us, hesitating, but you - misapprehending ;-)

10 Comments
  • From:
    Labyrinth (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    Hands up! Guilty as charged on this entry. Lol. Gawd. But I am a woman! Can't I use that as a legitimate excuse and a vocabulary license to say No(Yes), Maybe(Yes), Okay (No), and Nothing (There is something). Lol.

    Orient:)
  • From:
    Labyrinth (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    Men cant sometimes take our word as it is, right? They have to look in our eyes and see our body language after we said those words to determine if we meant what we said. Don't ya think that's what drives them nuts? Lol.

    Orient:)
  • From:
    MissTick (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    some of them don't even need to drive too far anyway ;-)
  • From:
    Labyrinth (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    i have no idea with the cache thing as I am a computer dumbo. Lol. But am testing it on you now by loggin in and sending this. Thank you so much.

    Orient:)
  • From:
    Labyrinth (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    it worked the first attempt but this one wont! i have to go back to my dropdown menu to re-enter your site. and my graphics arent still showing and it annoys me seeing lotsa x's there. lol. anyway, let's give steve some time to figure it out. he surely needs sleep.

    lol @ driving not too far. hehe.

    hugs,
    Orient:)
  • From:
    Ichandra (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    hello miss philosopher i agree with everything you said but you know somehow i think that there are so may pros and cons to so many decisions i am surprised that we can make up our minds about anything we should have vocab like well i am 30percent in favour 20 percent undecided and im not sure about the rest
  • From:
    Teaeyegger (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 30 2004
    Then speak to me of yessss... the true yessss that sighs from ones lips... for that is the yess that speaks to a man's heart... lol...
  • From:
    Bubbles1956 (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Oct 01 2004
    Ummmmm....................I guess this is more proof that I was a guy in my other lives. I very rarely say yes and not mean it. When I was younger I may have done it more, but I don't really have time for such things. Yes means yes or why bother saying it. Hmmmmm............I always knew I was different. This entry just reminds me how different I really am. LOL

    Sheryl
  • From:
    Labyrinth (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 04 2004
    i come here and see mostly are comments by me. am adding another one. you havent written for awhile? what or who's keepin u busy, madame? lol.

    Orient:)
  • From:
    IKnowHer (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Oct 07 2004
    Hmm, it’s a nice entry. Yes you had expressed a specific character of a women. I confirm your statements with my own experiences. They never said “yes” at the fist time and, true, subsequently said “ maybe” which turned to the meaning “yes” ultimately.

    Hmm, is it that they are Shy?, or too soft hearted to be frighten of hurting the others feelings or want to keep the other on suspense, or does not want to surrender them at once, or they need to logically prove them selves to accept some thing were a situation of argument is taking place inside, or is it pride?, or is it due to insecure feelings? ,or just the charm of the creation as u said “cute”. (Yes some times “white lies” can be sweet and interesting.) or finally just to drive the men crazy? Lol
    Anyway it creates little enthusiasm, curiosity, friction and excitement which are all nice but, hmm finally it may be frustration and anger that can surface.

    Again it matters how you handle the whole thing when to say no and when to say yes and keep the balance without losing the grip.

    Anyway it justifies me to associate at least another 1000 women to find the answers for the above questions. Lol still may I be successful…..??

    Well said - Miss Tick, keep it up.