We better in preaching then in following…it’s a known fact, isn’t it? we all smart to give advise and we turn into dumb asses when it is about us. What I found is that when I write down inspirational thoughts, I truly do believe in them, I feel that I can make them come true, that I can be that good and can do what needs to be done and feel what is right to feel…and I really am inspired when I say it is important to stay positive. Then there comes the sobering time…the time to face reality and look – who’s forgotten all her good intentions?!..I’m not miserable. Just the day-to-day efforts to stay in balance become weary with time…Guess, it’s time for another portion of inspirations ;-)
It is all in our own perceptions, isn’t it? The way how we see things is the way how we react to them. if something upsets us, it might be only because we choose to look at it from only one side, the side that matters to us personally. However, we should really learn to look at it from all the sides of the matter. Could it be that something else upset them before they did it to you? Could you be just a part of a chain reaction? And could you make an effort and stop it right there?
So many bad vibes travel among us humans every second…no wonder the society becomes more and more tense, people more and more frustrated…we absorb negativity from the others more eagerly then a positive thought. Why? Why instead of saying: they were very mean to me today I cannot say: they were having a bad day today, this affected the way they talk to me. See: this wasn’t my fault, so I don’t have to be upset about it… It wasn’t my fault they ignored me, so there is no point in feeling unworthy …it wasn’t something I did or haven’t done that made them to treat me like they did, so I should not take it as a punishment. It is not me, it is them and I’m not responsible for their choices. There is no reason to allow THEIR choices to influence MY life…when you start to look at things this way, you’ll notice how easier it becomes to stay at peace with yourself. To love yourself means not letting the others to change your self-perception. Who knows you better then you!?
I am not against the positive critique. If someone doesn’t like something about me, I’ll be upset, of course, but I wish to know what it is. It’s always useful to see yourself through another’s eyes. I do not like to be treated badly without explanation why they believe I deserved this. Because if they won’t let me know, I’ll just assume it’s their bad day and has nothing to do with me. So I won’t change. It’s that simple. The question I’d ask is not why you treat me like that? But – why do you think I can be treated like that? It’s all in perceptions. Instead of trying to figure out what have I done to deserve that, I can just look wider to see if I’m a part of a chain of something else…
It is all in our own perceptions, isn’t it? The way how we see things is the way how we react to them. if something upsets us, it might be only because we choose to look at it from only one side, the side that matters to us personally. However, we should really learn to look at it from all the sides of the matter. Could it be that something else upset them before they did it to you? Could you be just a part of a chain reaction? And could you make an effort and stop it right there?
So many bad vibes travel among us humans every second…no wonder the society becomes more and more tense, people more and more frustrated…we absorb negativity from the others more eagerly then a positive thought. Why? Why instead of saying: they were very mean to me today I cannot say: they were having a bad day today, this affected the way they talk to me. See: this wasn’t my fault, so I don’t have to be upset about it… It wasn’t my fault they ignored me, so there is no point in feeling unworthy …it wasn’t something I did or haven’t done that made them to treat me like they did, so I should not take it as a punishment. It is not me, it is them and I’m not responsible for their choices. There is no reason to allow THEIR choices to influence MY life…when you start to look at things this way, you’ll notice how easier it becomes to stay at peace with yourself. To love yourself means not letting the others to change your self-perception. Who knows you better then you!?
I am not against the positive critique. If someone doesn’t like something about me, I’ll be upset, of course, but I wish to know what it is. It’s always useful to see yourself through another’s eyes. I do not like to be treated badly without explanation why they believe I deserved this. Because if they won’t let me know, I’ll just assume it’s their bad day and has nothing to do with me. So I won’t change. It’s that simple. The question I’d ask is not why you treat me like that? But – why do you think I can be treated like that? It’s all in perceptions. Instead of trying to figure out what have I done to deserve that, I can just look wider to see if I’m a part of a chain of something else…