When we are with others we adapt to be the person they think we are … something strangely unsettling in the idea that when we are with others, we have to accept their view of us…And when this image is in a conflict with our own image of us, all sort of unpleasant conflicts could happen in relationships as well. From the other hand…nobody forces us to be that person in the mirror they hold against us. If the image is heavily deformed, we can just turn away and look for another mirror to look into. It is of no use to try to become that which they desire us to be, I think.
How well can we present ourselves to the world, how true is the image of us we project compare to the image of us we see…and does it need to be true at all? When I’m the better friend: when I’m being me and ignore the needs of others if they are in conflict with my needs or when I’m being flexible and attune my self slightly to make it more comfortable for the others to be with me? Do we all have the courage to be ourselves, but be alone?
It occurred to me that I’ve been asking a lot of questions recently…as I’ve mentioned not once already, they are not just questions. In fact, they are “answers in reverse”. The initial question would come to mind and the sequence of thoughts would follow…finishing in a statement that is a question itself…hmmmm… how illogical it is to answer to the questions with another ones…I really should’ve just write about my reality, facts, moods…I don’t know…weather reports, perhaps…
so in my today’s reality the day was dry…the mood was blue and the most interesting of all the facts of the day was that there was a Knight in my kinder surprise egg…he made me happy…see, how much space and effort I could save if I write in this manner?! ....mmmmm...I have to think about it now…
How well can we present ourselves to the world, how true is the image of us we project compare to the image of us we see…and does it need to be true at all? When I’m the better friend: when I’m being me and ignore the needs of others if they are in conflict with my needs or when I’m being flexible and attune my self slightly to make it more comfortable for the others to be with me? Do we all have the courage to be ourselves, but be alone?
It occurred to me that I’ve been asking a lot of questions recently…as I’ve mentioned not once already, they are not just questions. In fact, they are “answers in reverse”. The initial question would come to mind and the sequence of thoughts would follow…finishing in a statement that is a question itself…hmmmm… how illogical it is to answer to the questions with another ones…I really should’ve just write about my reality, facts, moods…I don’t know…weather reports, perhaps…
so in my today’s reality the day was dry…the mood was blue and the most interesting of all the facts of the day was that there was a Knight in my kinder surprise egg…he made me happy…see, how much space and effort I could save if I write in this manner?! ....mmmmm...I have to think about it now…