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After discussion with friend I've been left with a question that burns inside my mind since yesterday. I'd like to say straight away: I do not know the answer to it. I hope someone does. I'd like to hear opinions, if anyone can offer a logical explanation please.

Can Love Be Grown?

I do not mean - when two being best friends and have their mutual friendship grown into more with time. I'm talking purely - about "Love Greenhouse":

Can one decide to "cultivate" love for the other and actually do it? Is it possible to make a decision to love and just start to do it? Maybe - in response for the love towards you, maybe - out of gratitude, or - as a result of someone's love and devotion, that may melt your heart eventually?

Say, in a situation, when one loves another unrequitedly. Would it be right for them to hope that by their loving they will make another person to grow love in return?

For my personal opinion, love can never be "grown" on demand. It just happenned or not happenned. And no matter how much of someone's love you can have, there is no way that you can feel love for them "in response". Therefore, to expect and to hope that love can be grown in situation of "unrequited love" is wrong.

What would you say, wise people?

Comments (9)

ichandra (Legacy)

this is a beautiful entry yes reject the view and not the person
and it is true that there are so many levels to view any argument or truth and you always have to be constantly aware of linguistic drawbacks
anyway have a great day you philosopher you
love and light ichandra
hey drop into my sight for some french fries

Bubbles1956 (Legacy)

"It is a “problem” of interaction that “causes all the problems" This is so damn true. And when you say one thing and someone takes it another, it can be confusing and hurtful. Especially when both are sensitive people. GAWD I get tired of sometimes of poorly communicating my thoughts..................and having them twisted, or misunderstood. I think I would do better at sign language!

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IKnowHer (Legacy)

Hmm, I love this entry. It’s a true reflection of a genuine and perfect friendship. A friendship to my understanding is some thing we share. A real friendship does not have limitations in anything they share either happiness, sadness or some times just mere silence. A genuine friend can feel the pain and the joy with the pulse of the other. So tolerance plays and important role in a friendship.

Have a great day

Labyrinth (Legacy)

i think i have a high limit of tolerance except that my pain threshhold is so low. i can tolerate people and their actions, and co-exist with them but it gets to my nerves when their acts cross my path of comforts and joy. hence, i easily get discouraged and tend to walk away.

am not sure if am making sense now. lol

Orient:)

Pragmatist (Legacy)

Friendship? Ah, the sixty million dollar question. What is it? I guess it depends on the people involved. But it certainly involves trust. Other things may be there, too, but without trust you have only a fleeting relationship; not friendship.

Shalom

SpaceBetween (Legacy)

Another great entry. Thanks for sharing.

Pragmatist (Legacy)

Unrequired love happens. Too bad.

But just because you love someone, there's no guarantee that love will be returned. Again, too bad.

But take that love and turn it into something useful, like visiting elders in nursing homes; volunteering at a childrens home; volunteer at a place that serves the homeless.

In other words: Spread the love.

Shalom

ichandra (Legacy)

thanks for coming for fries i hope you did enjoy them and got fed up ha ha oh you philosopher you it is all in the wording of the thing and the ketchup of life
love and light ichandra

dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)

friendship and tolerance.. interesting.. very true thoughts here.. I hadn't thought that deeply about it.. but we do tolerate things from "friends" that we won't from 'others'..

as to the love things.. you got me with that one?? I have no idea about love.. I give up..
on love.. well, except love of child, animal, etc.. romantic love = zero to me!