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Recognition. [*Boring warning - HIGH]
Mon Nov 21 2005

Recognition. The essential craving of any human…to be recognised as individual…to be pulled out of the crowd for something special…in some this becomes an obsession, for others – lifetime struggle…for few – a dream never achieved…why the hell it is so important to be recognised?! Say, I’d say to myself: I do not care, I like me…and that’s enough of recognition to feed my selfishness…alas…not so easy, huh? We often pretend we have all we need and have enough pride to turn away and say: “we are fine without”…still desire for recognition is the worm that eats insides…in some sense, perhaps, jealousy and envy are no more then the declarations of that desire – we see the others being recognised in a way that we would want to be recognised ourselves, therefore we envy them…I can of course find some encouragement in a thought that everyone is special in their own way…sometimes it’s just not enough, isn’t it? You don’t need to be recognised for who you are by everybody. That’s an obsession to my point of view. You need to have at least someone whom you trust are sincere in their recognition of you…and obviously it is not just telling “you are special”…that would’ve been too lame, huh? When people show they care, when they care for real, you’ll know you’ve been recognised for something other then your skills or talents…or money…or originality…or anything else for that matter…it’s is a bit like a dog, receiving pat from his master – he is recognised just for being there. Maybe for bringing comfort in life…And dogs can wag their tale and put their head on your laps and give you that touchy look…and who’s heart would resist such a puppy’s love?! The same with humans: we get our rewards for skills and talents we gained, degrees of recognition, place on a social ladder, yet still have that longing to be patted without particular reason…how different we are from dogs I wonder?.. Sometimes it is easy to be cynical…it helps the words flow effortless…
4 Comments
  • From:
    IsolatedHell (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Nov 21 2005
    I would like to think that being recognized is not all that important to me and then I remember that there was a time in my life when I wanted to write "the great American novel". That never happened, I got pregnant and became a full-time mom instead, but who knows........maybe one day.~smiles~



    RYC: I thought that all postal services required a signature since all the bad things have happened here, but the rep. at FedEx said that it is only required if the sender asks for it.
    Im hoping and praying that tomorrow we are able to come to some kind of resolution.~smiles~
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Nov 22 2005
    dearest lovely Lana
    I use to be high up on the social ladder honest but the rung broke honest
    the ladder was no good anyway I returned for one that reaches to heaven

    ha ha
  • From:
    Windchimes (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Nov 22 2005
    job-wise, the best recognition i would have hoped for a great output was an added bonus or a raise. lol. never came. always the verbal appreciation which was ok. but when austerity time comes, i wish those words could buy me a bread or a med for a sick loved one.

    on top of it all, i think the recognition that lasts is that people know i can do it and am good at what i did.
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Nov 22 2005
    actually since this is a serious entry I thought I would return and do a serious response

    I speak from the lowest rung on the social ladder hee hee but as sylvia plath says I have been to the bottom and fear it not

    well seriously lovely Lana
    I think there is positive recognition that we all need to fluorish in life our efforts must be appreciated in some way or our growth is stunted

    there is vain recognition financial power social status defined by society's goals not the indivuals

    but there is spiritual recognition also we need each other to pat on the back to give feedback that we are pleasing others

    I was brought up in a strong catholic family and I believe that a life without giving is a void but I also believe that our giving must be reciprocated or the cycle is broken

    I work with kids and if they did not recognize my spiritual gifts given to them with pleasure and affirmation well I would quit my job really

    I like to give but I like to receive also it is just as important to me not in a material sense

    now I like to be the center of attention sometimes and maybe that is vain what do you think? hee hee