Wife I deal
Fri Feb 08 2008

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. 
~Robert Heinlein
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“I so want you to be happy!” Right, that’s why I have to make you unhappy first, so that when something better comes along, you will feel oh so happier then now! Can you see the logic? Because I can’t…Sorry, I just had to vent this one off my chest.

I’ve been falling into this trap again. In adequacy one. I’m an Ideal Wife. Wow. Now, that’s something, isn’t it? I do everything to make my husband feel good. That’s what I’ve been told. A perfect wife-material. Yet somehow this has nothing to do with being a woman. Men’s eyes designed in this defective way – they can see either one or another.

I don’t want to know of the anatomical differences between the visual sensors of men and women, I just want to know am I a woman or am I not?..At least I know I’m a person. I have strong beliefs; I have my logic and understanding of many things and understanding that I don’t understand many other things. I have some sense of art and some tastes for it. I’m different from others, which probably means I’ve done a good job growing as an individual. I’m comfortable in my skin as a person. It’s a woman’s part that confuses me…have I lost it? Or did I never have it? Why I can be a great friend but never – a great lover? Am I ugly? Am I unapproachable? Do I take and never give? Am I too simple for being an enigma women supposed to be?

If I’m missing this part of me, I want to know what exactly I am missing…I’d like to hear your comments about what do you think a woman is? Perhaps, one sentence that defines it for you, please?
2 Comments
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Feb 08 2008
    I've never given any thought to what being a woman is. I'm sure it's something more than breasts and vagina, but I also think that's what men frequently can't get beyond.

    I have to think about "being a woman." Is it just gender, or something way more complicated? As usual, you make me think.


    Bless
  • From:
    Dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Feb 12 2008
    In my opinion we are wired different from men.. I always ran /hung out with men (in my youth) coz I found them more simple.. more easy to understand. climbing trees, sports, etc...Where women were so cagey and could be backstabbing and devious.. (i had some ugly experiences with girls in school... awful bitches!!!
    However, i have also found some women friends to be the truest and most wonderful people I have known.. This is not a one sentence thing..
    you are woman.. !!