We have become so self-centred, SELF is more important to us. We try to see it all from where WE sit. We rather come out as detached then show how soft we are. We rather sulk for the past resentments then reach out to the friend in need. We so afraid to be seen as changing our principles for someone that we often change our morality instead…
I’ve already mentioned before the site that have helped me through the first, the most rough times – The Daily Strength. What truly amazing – people come there not at the happiest time of their life. They all there for the similar reason, looking for the same thing, each wounded and bleeding, no less then the next one. And still they find strength to hold the hands, to put forward a shoulder to cry on, to hug. And sometimes a hug is all that is needed. When you overwhelmed with the fears, loneliness, broken to pieces by the betrayal, hug is the best first aid. In time there will be need for advice, for support, for encouragement. But when the whole world is crashing down on you, all you need is to feel that you are not alone.
Compassion is not the same as pity. In pity we are sorry that it happened to somebody else. Compassionate person sees it happened, and then puts on the shoes of the person to whom it happened and look at it again with another set of eyes. Try it. Try another someone’s shoes. Do they hurt? Being in that pain, what would you want from people around you? Do you want them to tell you that everything is gonna be okay eventually, once the shoes tread out? Or do you wish them to massage your aching toes, once you’ve taken off the shoes, just to bring back that lost sense of comfort? If you try to imagine yourself in the place of another, you will know what is the best you can give.
Sometimes in some circumstances we don’t need others to give us a hand in solving our problems, or to re-assure us all will be okay in the end, or to encourage us to move on. Sometimes all we need is a hug that says: I know you’re hurting, I feel your pain, I am right here, with you…you are not alone…that’s - compassion.
I’ve already mentioned before the site that have helped me through the first, the most rough times – The Daily Strength. What truly amazing – people come there not at the happiest time of their life. They all there for the similar reason, looking for the same thing, each wounded and bleeding, no less then the next one. And still they find strength to hold the hands, to put forward a shoulder to cry on, to hug. And sometimes a hug is all that is needed. When you overwhelmed with the fears, loneliness, broken to pieces by the betrayal, hug is the best first aid. In time there will be need for advice, for support, for encouragement. But when the whole world is crashing down on you, all you need is to feel that you are not alone.
Compassion is not the same as pity. In pity we are sorry that it happened to somebody else. Compassionate person sees it happened, and then puts on the shoes of the person to whom it happened and look at it again with another set of eyes. Try it. Try another someone’s shoes. Do they hurt? Being in that pain, what would you want from people around you? Do you want them to tell you that everything is gonna be okay eventually, once the shoes tread out? Or do you wish them to massage your aching toes, once you’ve taken off the shoes, just to bring back that lost sense of comfort? If you try to imagine yourself in the place of another, you will know what is the best you can give.
Sometimes in some circumstances we don’t need others to give us a hand in solving our problems, or to re-assure us all will be okay in the end, or to encourage us to move on. Sometimes all we need is a hug that says: I know you’re hurting, I feel your pain, I am right here, with you…you are not alone…that’s - compassion.