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Tue Aug 02 2005

Well, Hubby is back from getting MIL moved. The move went smoothly, although MIL is a bit apprehensive about her new living arrangements.

She is actually in the rehab portion of this facility, and has been told by the Assisted Living Facility she lived in up until her recent hospitalization, that if she behaves herself and meets the goals that have been set for her by doctors and families, she can come back. This is the best news she could have gotten.

We have all realized that moving her to a nursing home is something that needs to be faced in the not-too-distant future, but the longer it can be put off the better it will be for MIL’s state of mind.

I’m hoping that she is able to do whatever is needed so she does not get invited to leave this facility. Her needs are far beyond what could be provided were she to live with SIL or us, and we aren’t sure what will happen if she does not have a place that will let her stay despite anything she may do.

It goes without saying that the prayers offered by everyone are MORE than welcome.

3 Comments
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Aug 02 2005
    If your MIL eventually goes to a nursing home, please investigate thoroughly before placement. I've worked in nursing homes, and I can tell you that the surface can be very misleading.

    Visit several times at different times of the day. Call the Ombudsman (number should be prominently displayed) and find out if there have been any complaints.

    Talk to the social worker about your concerns.

    If you're not satisfied with every aspect, then look for another place. Oh, and the expensive ones aren't necessarily better than the cheaper ones.

    Make sure they welcome family to participate in the patient's care, and encourage visits.

    DO NOT feel any guilt for not having her in your own home. You are not equipped to take care of an elderly dependent person. Let the professionals do their job.

    Shalom
  • From:
    InStitches (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Aug 03 2005
    My son in law is going thru similar problems with his father who was recently diagnosed with Pick's and needs constant care so I understand how hard all of this is for your family. You'll have my prayers.
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Aug 03 2005
    never an easy thing to do, my best mates mum is just starting down that road herself, looking around at local rest homes to keep her in as she's just in and out of hospital at the moment

    all the best to you and yours and lots of love

    sez