Go from not saying a word in your life, cause well you cant make waves, do as your told.
To other extreme of shouting at everyone who remotely upsets you.
Yeah I think Ive learned the experiences of both.
Hmmm but what is the middle ground?
Mom said "Hun, they dont think like you do, they werent brought up the way you were"
People in my abuse group and counselors have said "Dont apply logic to illogical people or situations."
Ahhh so true.
Now am I saying get walked all over? NOPE
Am I saying turn the other cheek and get trampled on everywhere you go? NOPE
Im saying the anger just gets continually fueled, and mainly that is what the person is trying to achieve, a REACTION. They dont care what type of reaction they get, as long as they get one.
Im learning right now about the word IGNORE, LET IT PASS, oh my those are tough ones you know? Ive started out using these in January this new year. And wow my life has gotten so quiet. Does it make the people who cause hurt and drama stop? NO, but it starts to put out portions of the fire, you start to see it die down, smoldering. And most of all. Im not some damn fire fighter running around any longer with my head cut off ringing my bell or blaring sires. Its not all my job. :)
Theres a button called DELETE that works well when uglys come into my Diary space.
Oh WOW! Could you imagine having a delete button alongside your light PEOPLE switch at home that removed people from annoying you?,,,,, ohhh the possibilities....