Sparkler
No More Drama

Info for Abusers

1.Many women say that what they really want is for their abusive partners to take responsibility for their behaviour and go for help.
2.Contact the community services in your area and ask for a referral. Be specific about what you are looking for. Programs may be offered in different languages, or for deaf and hard of hearing men through culturally specific community centres.
3.If you live in an area where there are no services, talk to your family doctor or someone you trust. Look for written information on emotional abuse.
Couples' counselling is not appropriate where abuse is involved. If you are abusive, it is your responsibility to change. Your partner is not responsible for the abuse.
4.Support your partner if she is going for counselling and do not interfere or interrogate her about it.
5.Do it for you! Accept that your partner may leave even if you go for help. Your counselling must not be a way to control your partner or keep her in the relationship. It will still benefit you, your future relationships, and your children