D'vorahDavida
Yetzirah

Reasons to Keep an On-Line Diary
Sun Oct 19 2003

As a follow up to the question about why we keep on line diaries. . .

I was fascinated by the responses. These are some of the comments that stand out in my mind:

“I was feeling alone.” “I’ve met very nice people here.” “I am an oddity at work, co-workers don’t understand why I would do something like this.” ( Boy I hear you there. When I mentioned my diary to my fellow workers, they looked at me like I had just sprouted tentacles or something….) “I get acceptance here. I am unsure about sharing my thoughts with people I interact with on a daily basis.” (This DOES seem like a safe place to try some thoughts on for size doesn’t it?) “To develop my writing style. I am often judged by my appearance and this place gives me freedom from that.” (Hear hear. One wants to be judged for one’s ideas, NOT the color of one’s hair or some such trivia.) “I was afraid of what I was feeling and didn’t want to write in a place that my family could stumble across it.” (Wow, this is a powerful reason to write in this semi-anonymous place. Having a place to vent can be very helpful during times when all you are feeling are negative things, and you don’t want to spew all over your nearest and dearest.) “My life has been enriched by reading other diaries.”

How eloquent you all were!

For myself, it began from reading the book, “Discovering the Writer Within”. I had written poetry for many years and was proud and happy with that kind of writing. But this book opened up a fountain of essay type writing that I had not explored very much. By the time I finished the book, and the writing exercises in it, I had generated quite a few pieces of work that I liked. . . but would anyone else? I wanted a place to share them, so I searched all over the net for the right diary site. BUT, I was not prepared for the. . . joy. . . that the comments would give me, and the knowledge that I had touched someone else’s life in a positive way. Wow, that part really blew me away. AND conversely, when you are writing drivel, the lack of response lets you know that you are being lazy as a writer. The almost instant feedback is a wonderful tool to help you know when you are hitting the mark and when you are missing it. An invaluable thing to a writer.

So here’s to us! The many, the varied, the timid, the bold, the ( I suspect) introverts among us. I would love to know the percentage of introverts who keep diaries here. A little psychological curiosity on my part. (Oh Billy Teabags, the sentence fragments are taking over!)

So that’s my next question. As far as you know, do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert? Heck, maybe I’m full of twaddle. Maybe this place is crawling with extroverts. But if I don’t ask, I won’t know!

Any Myers-Briggs type watchers among us? Any INTJ types out there?

To coin a beer commercial phrase….

“I love you guys.”



10 Comments
  • From:
    Angelnut (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    I'm not an introvert--I am definitely an extrovert, but I was afraid I was annoying to people, so I decided to foist my rants and essays on the unsuspecting anonymous world of the internet, thereby sparing my family, friends, neighbors, and coworkers. One thing I noticed about my high school reunion was that the people who had become real, bonafide writers were the people I had always pegged as introverts. The extroverts had jobs in sales and marketing. The introverts were Historians and published authors. Oh--and one of the introverts, with a very expensive Liberal Arts degree from an Ivy League school, was now a kayaking instructor in Alaska. Go figure.
  • From:
    Yarngirl (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    Introvert. Always. I open myself to Rick and that's about it. The diary is interesting because I (as most people here I suspect) can express myself so much better 'on paper' than speaking. Sometimes if something is bothering me, I can muddle it out here and explain it much better that way to Rick. Tears may be pouring while I write, but I can express myself in a way that cuts through the physical emotion so he can understand.

    Julie
  • From:
    Parett (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    INFJ....I took the personality test years ago and cried when I read the results. Is was like someone had looked inside of me and knew who I really was. It was a 'MOMENT' I cherish to this day. I've always been, and been considered, a little 'off' and definitely different. I'm gonna have to go grab my 'Please Understand Me' book and read about you. If I'm not mistaken, you and my brother are the same. Because of my path with God I have become a little more outgoing but I'm still lacking in tact and usually have to warn people that if I say anything that sounds rude or inconsiderate...it's certainly not deliberate. I saw on a diarist's Welcome page a link to Myers-Briggs but can't remember who's it was. By the way...if I don't comment on some of your entries, it doesn't necessarily mean I don't like it. Jeg elske deg to you, too!
  • From:
    Calichef (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    I am an INFJ, too. I think I was more extroverted when I was younger, but as I had more and more challenging (difficult) experiences in life I seem to have become more introverted.
    ~Cali
  • From:
    BillyTeabags (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    I have to admit I enjoy the instant feedback, although sometimes it can be overwhelming. I also find creating entries is good overall practice for getting ideas out of my head. I think these online journal thingies are ingenious little inventions. I always find it really interesting to see how different people approach having a diary.
  • From:
    Bookworm (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    Bravo, this was terrific. ;-)
  • From:
    AQuietEvening (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    As you know I'm an INFJ...but I have to say wow to the comments. These personality types are in the minority, but look at how prominent they are here. I think you stumbled across something.

    I wouldn't have described myself as an introvert but now that I've studied it a bit more, I definately agree. I must've scored on the low end towards extrovert though.

    By the way I don't always comment even if the entries are good. Sometimes you've said all that needs saying.

    ~QE
  • From:
    AeolianSolo (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Oct 20 2003
    Introvert, extrovert-- Are we really the best judges of this ourselves? Ask the people who know us best.

    As for why I DD: Some days, to practice my writing, very conscious of the audience. Some days, to blow off steam; don't care who may read it. Some days, feeling lost, hoping someone will cast me a clew. Some days, bored witless and needing something to do. Some days, just want to check in with my little virtual community and feel the connection.

    And just 'cause nobody comments doesn't mean we don't care. Speaking only for myself, sometimes I don't resonate to what's posted, sometimes I don't feel I have anything original to contrubute, and sometimes I'm just too lazy or withdrawn (introverted?) to stick my two cents in.
  • From:
    Becoming (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Oct 21 2003
    I'm an extroverted introvert. Emphasis on the introvert. A person who has faced her fears and broadened her experiences by doing so.

    I am an expert in sentence frags. I happen to like them. Nonconformist, or passive aggressive? Comes from having an English Teacher and a Speach pathologist for older sisters. Hah! Fooey on you . . . I can do what I want. So there! Or maybe I'm just getting lazy.

  • From:
    RealmOfRachel (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Oct 21 2003
    I think I took that test a while back I'm pretty sure I came out as an INTJ I'm an introvert which is probably why convesely I probably seem like an extrovert in my diary because no one knows its really me if that makes any sense?

    Rach xxx