We have decided the best way to go about the issue with #1 is just to ground him for life. Unless he is at school or a doc appointment, he will not be leaving his room until he is 42. I figure 30 years banished to his room should teach him a lesson!
OK, maybe not. But it sure is tempting. We have actually decided that he will have no internet access until the summer. And maybe not even then. He also lost his e-mail account with this. He wasn't sending anyone e-mail anyway, so it has been shut down. Hubby did draw the line when I proposed handcuffing him to his bed while the rest of the family went out for fun on New Years Eve. So instead he will be on "Kennel Duty" for the remainder of his stay. Every time he goes out to scoop poop I will remind him of why he has the duty. Maybe that will help him realize that actions have consequences.