Well, I think we have a partial fix for #1. I found an online/mail order pharmacy which takes the insurance we have and will mail his meds straight to my folks house.
Now I need to continue to work on coverage for his visits to the doc. Little by little it is coming together. It would be so much easier though if I could find someone who actually knows answers rather than be transferred from person to person after making my way through the phone menu's.
I'm beginning to believe that telephones (particularly the menu's and hold) are evil.