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Getting ready for school
Wed Aug 28 2002

#2 has 7th grade orientation today. He is quite excited as he will get his own locker this year. He is hoping that foriegn languages will be offered as an elective, as well as band. We find out in about an hour.

Meanwhile, back in the bat cave....I mean up in Alaska, today is the first day of school for #1. I believe he is the source for some of the things #2 wants as he will be in band and be taking Spanish. He also chose to take a modern day version of home economics. I suspect this is because he knows there will be lots of girls in the class!

#3 is pretending to be bored with the whole back to school preparations, but when he doesn't know I'm looking I can see how excited he is. He is excited to be in 3rd grade this year, but doesn't want anyone to know it.

Going back to school was always something I loved, and I'm glad to see my boys enjoy it so much also.

4 Comments
  • From:
    Oscar (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Aug 28 2002
    If you can both work happily within the differences that DO exist in each of you, the relationship can work. Not "will", but "can".

    I suppose that saying "I love you" really means "I respect your differences, and want to honor you by cooperating within those differences so that we can make a life together."

    That and "Show me your boobies!"

  • From:
    Allimom (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Aug 28 2002
    Reply to Oscar:

    Yes, I used many more words to convey that, but you hit the nail on the head!
    Alli
  • From:
    AussieDeafMan (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Aug 28 2002
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' isn't love although you can be 'in love' and have love at the same time.
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' is about sexual attraction and romance, a state of mind created by nature to help the human race reproduce. It's essentially a selfish thing and a a state of irrationality.
    Comment:
    Love is 'the will to extend one's self for the sake of one's own or another's spiritual growth'.
    Comment:
    You are 'in love' (and possibly love too) your hubby. You love your children.
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' and love have entirely different sets of objects and mostly different rules, which most people (even you, above) mix and confuse. No wonder it all gets messed up, often.
    Comment:
    You cannot love someone more than you love yourself.
    Comment:
    You cannot love anyone unless you love yourself first.
    Comment:
    Love requires dedication to the truth. Love does not always require you tell (some or all) the truth. You can sometimes choose to tell nothing (a secret, in effect) or just something. Why? Because it is better for the other person's spiritual growth in certain (restricted) circumstances. This is a difficult balance.
    Comment:
    Love is not a feeling, it's an action. Loving feelings are not love in themselves. Love does not even require the presence of loving feelings, although more often than not, they are there.
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' is an out-of-body experience. Living in a state of love is an out-of-body experience which is one reason why they are often confused.
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' involves a collapse of the ego boundaries. Love requires the opposite.
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' is basically a narcissistic state. When being 'in love' collapses, if there isn't love there to replace it, people will part, often acrimoniously.
    Comment:
    Being 'in love' eventually collapses, one way or another, and the ego boundaries snap back into place. Love is a state of being, a way of living, a conscious decision. It does not collapse if you truly love.
    Comment:
    I am running out of time and comments and I've said quite enough. But I could go on.

    _|m/ ADM
  • From:
    Franisbueno (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Aug 29 2002
    Very well said, mature, and real look at love and marriage. Unfortunately, I have seen so many relationships eventually fail because of the unrealistic, fairy tale requirements placed on their relationship. How straining!

    What a good love, and a good marriage is, is different for everyone. I'm with you though in that what I love so much about Dave is that he has never ending layers to himself that are so different to mine. We love each others layers, respect and even admire our differences, compromise well, are friends, but know better than to ask detailed questions about past intimates! :) that can only get you (me)into trouble!

    love,
    ~dirty whore