Do you see the BUT coming?
After he graduates he will be able to go on all the work related trips that he can't go on now due to school. I will be trading off a few hours a week for days and weeks at a time.
Hubby absolutely loves his job and what he does. I am glad for him to have these opportunities, but I sure wish they allowed for us to have more time together. I feel like we are so busy doing things now for our future, that we have no now for us.
When I was 9, my natural dad died. He was very much a work-aholic. We saw him only infrequently during the week, occasionally on the weekends (if he wasn't golfing or out playing sports). What I remember of holidays, he would be with us in the mornings, then working for some of them in the afternoon and evenings. Suddenly one day, he was gone. The saddest part about his death was that my brother and I were not really affected by it in the aspect of missing him. We had already missed his presence in our lives. How could we miss him more than we already did, when we seldom saw him when he was alive?
It terrifies me that my children may be experiencing the same thing. I am with them now, and hopefully I will be able to stay home from work for the remainder of their school years. Hubby however is gone so much. He does make a effort to spend time with them, and be involved with them. When he is home and has "free" time, he is completely devoted to them.
My children all have ADD/ADHD, Attention Deficit (with Hyperactivity) Disorder. I believe my children also have DDD. Daddy Deficit Disorder. Hubby is working to remedy the situation as much as he can while still in school. He will be involved with #2 in martial arts. I'm hoping that #1 & #3 will also join this activity with their father.
While it would be wonderful if each of the boys could have thier own activity with him, I don't know how this would be possible without a time machine or a way to clone him.