Curves ease the lines… spark our curiosity… allow us to anticipate that certain some thing just beyond our senses… the world was once believed to be flat… a cast expanse that stretched out as far as the eye could sea and then dropped off… the straight and narrow is very similar to this ideal… there is only that witch is before me and nothing more… to believe in curves and slopes and gentle turns allows us to be open to that witch we are unable to see but intuitively know is around the corner… a garden can be a geometric shape of squares and rectangles… while this is pleasing to the eye a move interesting version is one that rolls… turns us to surprises our sense with color and fragrances captured just before our eyes by the hint of wonder on the breeze…
I am reminded of perfume… a scent applied to capture the imagination… set into the curves of ones being… the fragrance is spread by the touch of the breeze to capture the attention of some one before they see… they are aware of the presence… how often are we reminded of some one by the wisp of a similar scent upon the air… lavender… vanilla… a perfume or cologne that snaps our memory… these are all to me curves… bends… wandering side roads that enrich our life… I believe we in joy the straight and direct methods for their pure honesty and focus… butt each of us at times want that curved path to wander in for the wonder of surprise… for the joy of discovery and the abandonment of routine…the best things in my life have jumped out from around a bend as I wandered searching for a peace full place to ponder… up on each of these solaces I found another soul in contemplation of similarities… the sharing of our curves and straight angles sharpen perceptions… allowing each a sense of the peace the other shared…
A child senses more… they have that ability to grasp hold of a wide variety of ideas… they believe in fantasy… in the impossible dream… they are not limited by what is possible in reality… they can fly over mountains and race through the heavens…tunnel into the earth and explore distant planets… the imagination of a child is unburden by the technical realities of such thoughts… they in joy them for what they are… an exploration… a journey… a time to play… such creative excursions open a myriad f doors to ones mind… all things are possible in this state of mind… so easy for a child to enter and exit…
What happens in time is that reality begins to interfere in the expression of ones ideas… we are told to wake up to the realities… and when we dream we lose that unlimited state of dreaming… we exchange it for the one that balances our imagination against the reality of the world and challenges us to dream in the realm of what is possible and to leave the impossible at a distance… so the dreams we dream can be reached… we all grow up to this… it is part of that process… except for the creative few who manage to keep that other altered state… those are the true geniuses… the ones who can get back to that pure altered state without limitation or boundary and bring back the impossible and work it within the realm of this reality…if we have to choose what is real… what is possible for us… I believe we must choose to be in the altered state of our youth… it provided more pure wonder for us then the possible dreams we now are limiting ourselves two…
A limitation is just a resource you have not yet managed to acquire… once you do it becomes an asset you can call upon to move in effortless steps… life is about challenges and opportunities to do some thing new and different… the confusion we at times are present in is a lesson in learning… turn on the curiosity and the confusion becomes an asset to signal a new lesson… some new information… a positive step in the direction we wish to go… or a warning to find another way to the happiness you seek… within the heart and soul are keys to ones peace of mind… satisfy them… the rest… the physical needs are suddenly calmed… in the peace of what you now know…
Life is truly a dance… at times loud and wild… at times slow and romantic… a time to move to the music of the night of entwine in the sounds of ones breathing… each wave a crash of awareness… each breeze a scent of the promise of tomorrow… each new day a realization of a dream…
It is not the words that one uses as much as the heart within them… when a baby is born to us we are filled with hope… we dream of the day when they will be what we as parents never achieved… you came into our lives with out instructions on how or a manual that we could follow… we did our best… at some point what we desired for you… was replaced by your desires for you…
These things are not unusual… a parent sees the world from the distance of experience… they want to protect you even now… knowing that your life will be tougher because of the choices you are making… it is hoped that by refusing to be there that you will come to your senses… and see the correct path… it is a desperate attempt to change who you are…
Deeply religious people will find what you are doing a corruption of moral ideals… right wing political minds find it repulsive… I am unaware of where your parent’s views are… I am just making you aware of what haunts them… in support of who you are they can stand to lose friendships and connections they have had all their lives… In my mind were they truly friends… but you see family is some what of a complexity… as a parent we love our children deeply… but love is not indulging their desires… some times it is in testing their beliefs… their passion… their desire… for a parent after a time love becomes all about letting go… about allowing the child you brought into the world… educated and encouraged to be the wonderful person they are… make their own decisions… become the person we allowed them… some parents can never let go… they hold on hoping to protect their children… this usually ends in a revolution of some sorts…
Knot knowing you I have to trust that your decision to marry was based on a deep love and caring for the other person… a belief and desire to share your lives… to encourage and aid the growth and wonder of each other… A parent knows of loves pit falls… of the limits of physical love… of the enrichment of love in the birth of children… of finally reaching a spiritual devotion to one another… where your love for one another is felt in the depth of ones soul… marriage is all about letting go of one another… much like a parent lets go of a child… a marriage is about the freeing of each other… a constant encouragement to be the person they are destined to be… allowing them the freedom to be the artist they are and sharing in those moments of heartache as well as the moments of success… I will trust that you know that many marriages fail because people are who they are… flexibility is the most use full of tools in a marriage…
I thought of what I would say if my daughter or son approached me… knowing the depths of my own wife’s feelings I could possible be in a similar situation as the one you find yourself within… You may find this difficult butt some times it is important to allow a person to say what is on their mind… what is in their heart… they may have already spoken the words… let them speak them once more or as many times as it takes… for some times we need to talk until the words we need to say come forth… dismiss the anger for it comes from frustration… from knot over standing your love… do your parents the courtesy of allowing them their words… butt only their words… and if you have done this already… and you may have… then nothing more needs to be said..
Love is a sacred bond between us… it exists in families… among friends… across oceans and through time… it manifests itself in the physical touch… of being one with another… love is more then just the wonder of the physical… love is emotional… a sharing of each others tears of joy and sorrow… it is a foundation for support for the many moments of happiness and the few troubling times of sorrow… love is that emotional wave that washes over us… filling the moments of our life times with memories… love is still more then that… love is a spiritual connection that allows us to share our love with all who need it… with all who have passion… and desire for living a good life… for being happy… we may knot agree with their religion or their politics or their choices… but we can love them for the person they are… for the creative soul… for the artist within… spiritual love is about letting go… about allowing the wonder within another to go free of the protection we have surrounded it with…
Love is not about protecting any more when one reaches the spiritual level… at that place it is about encouraging each and every one to do what is pure and true for themselves… it is all about being open and honest and forgiving…
Finally… love her no matter what she decides… what she says… love her more for her love of you… see her actions as what they are… a means to protect you from the world… I would tell my son or daughter… to be happy… to love unconditionally… to support and honor the person they choose to spend their life with… to encourage them to grow and to be the people you dream to be together… life will challenge you and at times all you will have will be each other… that is all we had… and if your cling to one another and love with all your hearts… well then… nothing I say matters…
The best part of a relationship is the companionship it provides… the sex is just a fringe benefit…