I became a sneaky mother today. Not intentionally, but Big Son left his email open, and I just happened to see, "I can't believe that you kissed so-and-so", so I had to read.I'd like to think of myself as being involved, not so much invading his personal space.
Jesus, Mary and Joseph! The child isn't yet 11 years old and he has already kissed a girl! Not only that, but this girl is not his so-called girlfriend that he's had for the past month.
Okay. So I'm having issues.
I couldn't just let it slide, I HAD to say something. I think it would have made me irresponsible to just ignore the two-timing kissing machine!
During supper, I casually brought it to my son's attention that I had a house full of teacher's aides from his school over here on Saturday night for a party. My sister works at the school, so these were her friends/coworkers. And I asked if he knew them, while I named them off.
Instantly he started looking guilty.
I think there may be more in his life that I'm missing out on these days.
And then, without actually saying how I found out, I brought up his lip action.
He admitted it. And then he said that he really wanted to kiss his girlfriend, but she chickened out, so on a dare, he kissed this other girl, without his girlfriend's knowledge.
Arghh!
What have I done wrong?
So, calmly I explained that he is much too young to be kissing girls, or having girlfriends, or anything else that doesn't involve him still being attached to me by an umbilical cord. Okay, so I didn't really say the last part, I was just thinking it in my head.
I also explained to him, that even though I don't approve of him having a girlfriend, I most certainly don't approve of him disrespecting her by kissing another girl behind her back. I tried to lecture, without actually lecturing. Understand?
And then sweet darling Daughter pipes up about the 4 boys that she has crushes on.
And she's only 8 years old!
God help me!
It can only go downhill from here. Can't it?
I feel like I've failed them somehow. Seriously. Why are they even noticing the opposite sex yet, they are way too young. What have I done wrong? And how do I fix it?
The phone is already ringing for Big Son, with giggling little girls and invitations to the movies, and skating and walks to the store. I guess I'm not the only one who notices how adorable he is.
I just don't know what to do. I'm not ready to deal with this stuff yet. And I always imagined that I'd have those kids that came to me with stuff. Big Son doesn't tell me anything. How did that happen? On the other hand, Daughter shares absolutely EVERYTHING! And that is probably just as bad. Just yesterday we had the whole in depth 'menstruation conversation', because my vague answers weren't enough to satisfy, so I laid it all on the line, and she said, "Mommy. I do not want to be a girl anymore."
I wish that I could just wish for Hubby to be home, and rescue me from all of this nonsense, but he's a bigger wimp than me in these situations. I guess I better nip this in the bud now. There will be plenty of time for all of these shenanigans when they get older.
Wish me luck and maturity in dealing with this.
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