Selena Update

We went to visit Selena today in hospital. She’s in a great deal of pain but in good spirits. She’s had an enormous amount of wellwishers, card and gift-bearers and she’s very thankful to everyone who’s been thinking of her. The windowsill beside her bed is burgeoning with cards, balloons and teddy bears!

There’s not much I can say about her specific condition medically, but she is stable now and remaining positive.

Thank you to everyone who’s held her in their prayers. Please try to keep her there over the next few weeks and even months. Her road to recovery will be a long one and she will need all the prayers that can be offered. Thank you for everyone’s kind words and thoughts too.

Thank you and God Bless.
Steve and Rose.

In Need Of Assistance

I don’t normally use this diary to appeal for personal assistance, because generally it’s not appropriate, but I am making an exception this time because my personal diary doesn’t get the readership that this one does.

A very good friend of mine (and Rose’s best friend) Selena is in the intensive care unit after she was involved in a near fatal motorcycle accident on Saturday. She has broken her back and the doctors are saying she may never walk again.

To all of you who believe in God, please pray with us that God will provide her with a second miracle (the first being that she lived at all) so that she will be able to walk again. God will know who you’re praying for without me needing to give you a great deal of personal details because Rose and I have been speaking to Him constantly since we found out yesterday. Selena has so much to offer everyone who meets her and we know she makes a positive difference to people’s lives with whomever she comes into contact.

To those who don’t believe in God, please send her your good wishes anyway.

Thanks, and apologies for the blatant personal use of this diary for this purpose!

Steve and Rose.

Much Slackness in the Support Area

Afternoon all,
We must apologise for the very slow responses people have experienced recently when writing with support requests (or actually, any kind of requests). We have just completed an overseas move which saw us leave our house in England on the 9th of October, and only just yesterday arrive in our new house in Australia.

In the meantime of course we have been without significant internet access (fortunately the server seems to have behaved itself without intervention in all that time!) and had to rely on the occasional webmail session – which is just not nice for replying to long technical e-mails! Couple that with the fact that we’ve been SO busy with real life things (selling cars, packing boxes, dumping much rubbish, moving day, visiting family one last time before leaving, living out of suitcase, flying halfway round the world, living with family while we organize our new home, buying new car, getting phone, electric and broadband on, moving in, unpacking boxes, getting new mobiles, chasing electric company because they hadn’t switched the electric on, figuring out broadband settings because ISP’s tech support line takes years to get through to, you get the idea ;-)) and you can perhaps begin to see what’s happened :-)

Anyway, as of today we’re pretty much back in the saddle, the broadband is in and working despite that we’re in one of the most rural areas I’ve ever seen (yay Telstra!) and so we should be able to keep things ticking along nicely again.

If you’ve sent a support request that has not been answered now, please resubmit it, as it’s obviously been ‘lost in the post’ because we have answered all the messages in the support inbox now.

Ta!
Steve and Rose.

Further Hotmailing

After much toing and froing I did manage to get somewhere with Hotmail. At this stage I cannot switch it back on for DD usage as I’m still making investigations, but I did discover that the reason we were being blocked as spammers is because some kind soul discovered that they could use our Support form to send out e-mails to any address, not just the address we intended.

So in fact, although they wouldn’t tell me why, Hotmail were actually correct. My server was spamming.

The loophole is now closed. The closure of the loophole MAY cause you some issues, if it does you’ll see a Kabarty branded page saying you sent something to which the server objected. If you do see that, please fill in the details of what you were trying to do, where and when so that we can improve the system for you.

Steve.

Explanation of Microsoft Hotmail Mailings

After much discussion with Microsoft I am now able to confirm that we will be forever unable to send messages to Hotmail, MSN or live.com users. This is down to the way Microsoft Hotmail determines whether people are spammers.

Microsoft have given me a list of reasons why our server may be blocked by them – and I have given them a response indicating that almost none of them apply to us, however we are still blocked.

The following is their final advice, and I’ll annotate why (if it is) it is irrelevant in our case;


Your IP (72.51.41.215) was blocked by MSN Hotmail because the vast majority of all the email that you send to us has been judged to be spam by MSN Hotmail’s internal filtering system.

While I cannot guarantee email deliverability from your IP I can offer you some advice that may help your situation.

Segment your mailing infrastructure by IP. Marketing e-mail, transactional corporate, “forward to a friend” e-mail and signup e-mails should be sent from different IP’s. This will help to identify what types of messages are being flagged by Hotmail customers.

Segmenting the mailing infrastructure would require sending DearDiary.Net e-mails from it’s own server. It would also require running the 100+ other domains that are hosted on the server on their own seperate server and means the notion of providing Web Hosting services for £66/yr is somewhat unfeasible. Given that Microsoft are apparently providing free web hosting services in the near future one would expect them to understand that the costs significantly outweigh the income for this.


Strengthen the sign up process. Confirm that you are using a double-opt-in sign up process. This will not help in removing existing Hotmail customers from your e-mail lists but it will confirm the authenticity of those who sign-up on for your e-mail campaigns and newsletters.

As DD users are well aware, people cannot sign up to be on someone’s notify list unless they are signed in to their own account. It isn’t possible for someone else to sign you up to be on their notify list. Thus, anyone on someone’s notify list is entirely authentic and has requested to be on the list.


If you have any feedback loops setup with other ISPs you should look for trends to try and determine possible causes – a new data source? New advertisement? Maybe folks signing up don’t recognize the mail?

DearDiary.Net notifies have not changed format in 7 years, so they’re hardly a new anything…

Maybe folks don’t recognize the mail, but I don’t see how I could make it any clearer. It has [Username NOTIFY] in the subject, and a large footer explaining they received the mail because they’re on Username’s friend list at DearDiary.Net.


Clearly mark your e-mails so that Hotmail customers are able to quickly and easily identify that they requested e-mails from your service.

As above.


Do some analysis on the data regarding complaints – look at Hotmail customers who have never clicked, opened, responded or bounced in any way. These poor performers could contain many bad addresses.

I don’t have access to any data about who’s clicked, opened or responded to a notify request. To do so would require insertion of some unique code on the URL and then I run into all sorts of privacy concerns because I’d be able to see whom is reading whose diaries! Not to mention most of the Personal Firewall or anti ‘webbug’ software that almost everyone uses would destroy such insertions and render them useless.


Clean up your lists. Remove those who do not want to receive the emails. Make the unsubscribe process more visible.

The unsubscribe process could hardly be clearer. It’s in the footer of each e-mail and clearly says ‘If you no longer wish to receive these notifications, please go to http://www.deardiary.net/secure/manageFriends.pl’.

However since most spam also contains unsubscribe options, and most people have been educated NOT to click on such links because ‘It proves to the spammer that your address is actually valid’ it is little wonder this doesn’t work.


Enroll in the Sender Score program. This is the only Whitelist which Hotmail uses. It is owned and operated by Return Path. You can find information about this program at “www.senderscore.com”.

I investigated the sender score program. It’s minimum fee is $1000 per year, with a $400 signup. DearDiary.Net doesn’t make that much in a year, so I don’t think it’s really an option. I also object to paying for it on principal because we’re not spammers and I don’t see why I should have to pay to send e-mails to Hotmail customers.

Of course if Hotmail customers feel that strongly about getting their notifies they can either give me $1000/yr for Sender Score Certification, and $2500/yr for the server to run it on, or they can move to a provider that isn’t requesting people pay to send e-mails to them.


Please visit http://www.senderbase.org to verify that your IP is not being targeted by any 3rd party block lists.

This was one of the first things I checked and it is not.

Now, since Microsoft won’t tell me which specific thing has caused me to be blocked – ie, I cannot see any of the messages that my server has allegedly sent and had marked as spam – I cannot begin to actually fix it. All I can do is assume that it’s because people have signed up for notifies, and then later are marking them as spam rather than going to their Manage Friends links and removing themselves. Perhaps they forgot their password and can’t get in to Manage Friends. Perhaps they forgot they signed up for DearDiary.Net entirely.

Perhaps, and I suspect this is the crux, it’s just easier to mark the message as spam from the Hotmail control bar and then next time it comes in it’ll just get put into the Junk folder.

But really, without proper feedback from Microsoft on why, who knows?

What I do know is that I have spent hours trying to negotiate with Microsoft to get the block removed AND to tell me specifically what caused it so that I can ensure it doesn’t happen again. They refuse. This was their final word on the matter;


Steve;

As Bruce stated, the majority of the email that you send to us has been judged to be spam by MSN Hotmail filters. Your best bet for improving the deliverability of messages from your domain, is to follow the suggestions he provided.

Thank you,
Jeff

HotMail is right, I am wrong. That’s their last word on it.

The only remaining feasible suggestion in Bruce’s list was to therefore not send notifies from DearDiary.Net.

So there you have it. Microsoft does not want you to receive mail that you have specifically asked for at HotMail. What you do with this information is entirely up to you – but you cannot receive any e-mail from the DearDiary.Net system to Hotmail and it seems unlikely you ever will be able to.