Unfairness. In a lot of ways.

Firstly, I’ve been unfair to Darren. Darren and I had various discussions last year and in general we got along very well. That changed when the 4of9 diary started and its only now that I understand why. Thats up to Darren if he wants to explain, but suffice to say that I apologise for the previous entry where I singled out Darren.

My intention was merely to state that we will not tolerate trolls at this site. As it turns out the current ‘Darren’ situation goes way beyond Darren and various people decided that because we hadn’t intervened that it was OK to start trashing each other in their own diaries.

People, get a grip.

Do you REALLY think we have enough time to read every entry from every person? Do you REALLY think we’re even interested in doing so?

Well just in case there’s any doubt, no we’re don’t and no we’re not.

So, if anyone starts abusing you in their diary, or using your works sans permission, please use the email addresses at the bottom of every single page thats ever displayed here. Its not hard. Just click it. DON’T think that because its been there for 24 hours and we’ve not removed that we don’t care. The chances are that we simply don’t know its there! And even if we DO know its there, we won’t do ANYTHING about someones entry unless someone else complains.

Our policy is quite clear, and our actions are quite consistant. We do not intervene unless someone complains. This means you have a responsibility to actually stand up and complain if you’re being trashed somewhere. We DO act when the situation warrants it, and we’d rather you told us than tried to drag the site down in to the flamefest days that were (and probably still are) Usenet. FAILURE to notify us of a situation, and instead fighting back, means you are no better than the original perpetrator and indeed, you are likely as not then accused of trashing that person!

All reports to abuse@deardiary.net are dealt with in confidence, and the rules (as you can see above) are quite clear. People know they’re not allowed to do it. There is NOT one rule for one diarist and one for another and there never will be. Sometimes, depending on the ‘abuse’ we may ask that you let it lie for a few days and hope that it goes away on its own. Other times, we may agree with you immediately and say its out of order and we’ll get it removed. But never EVER will you be ignored. If you think you have been, a quiet, polite ‘did you get my last message’ to the abuse address would be appreciated, but please give it at least 4 hours before you do that.

Anyone thats actually USED this method can probably stand up and vouch that we do actually do what we say rather than just talk about it. Anyone thats been on the wrong end of it can probably say the same….

My original message to Nick remains (despite his articulate response in comments ;-)) though I may tone it down a little and state that IF the people he is writing about don’t mind being parodied then fine, he can continue. Otherwise, no – and for gods sakes stop throwing mud in your parodies. They used to be cleverly done, but they’ve lost that now and turned to rather tasteless, basal toilet jokes to get attention. And remember, if anyone complains about your entries we will look into it, so you might need to be prepared to lose some of them.

To the other trolls remember, there is only one freedom here, and thats the freedom to leave. That really is it. If you don’t like our ‘harsh’ rules, please, the door is over there. Close it on the way out, thank you.

Steve.