Words and Actions
Words? Actions? These two words come across to me in a saying by a Nicolas Sparks: “You’re going to come across people in your life who say all the right words at the right times. But in the end, it is always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.” Umm, I am personally experiencing something in my own life that Nicholas Sparks’ words have come to have me right something straight from my own heart. I am sitting here right now, sad as it may sound to you, remembering the good times I had with a neighbor who I was once close to and became friends in 2012 shortly after my four-day stint in the hospital in the psych ward due to medication needed to be revaluated because of my anxiety and panic disorder. And enjoying each other having suppers and lunch together, a movie or two, or just hanging around. The times we spent together was of a great joy. The gifts we would give one another. I remember this one gift that was a blanket about true friends. Well, as you may understand, those words trickled my heart with great joy for a while but now the blanket is folded and put away in my bedroom closet because those words do not hold meaning to what has happened in the past several weeks. Seeing this blanket draped over the back of my futon had made me cry or feel some major heartache for what is no longer available. Why? It is because they are just words and the actions of this neighbor now has proven to be the opposite of what a true friend would do, say, or plan. The blanket is not out of mind but it is out of sight. I won’t forget the good times I have had with this neighbor who was a friend but what she has done now has changed my feelings towards her to the point that I can do nothing for her except pray my heart out to my Lord and Savior and cry my eyes out day and night. Words are words and actions are actions, and actions do speak louder than words now-a-days and always have done so.
What my neighbor has done to herself is nothing to laugh or point fingers saying you deserve what has been coming to you for a long time even though there has been a lot of finger pointing at my neighbor lately. She has decided to not take heed to those who care enough for her and she has chosen to take a road trip down a path that has gotten herself in a little bit of trouble and this Friday will seal her fate on when she must leave the apartment complex and go live elsewhere with her boyfriend who happens to be bad news and the cause of the trouble she has gotten into in the past several weeks. It is so sad and I am powerless to this kind of outrageous behavior. I have done everything I could to help my neighbor even though our friendship has died a long time ago. I have come to trust certain people in my life and that has been a trial for me because my life has had its ups and downs for most my life. Why do actions seem to be the most prominent over words? It is indeed true that actions do speak louder than words!