Ok i was about to go to bed and to wind down I sat on the couch with chris ( who steam cleaned the entire living room, dining room, and hall…) and watched this late night tv show called “rendez views” where a panel sits and talks about this date that two people are on.

I don’t even know where to start.

As a society, we admit we have a serious breakdown in morals. We admit that our children of this generation are not being tought how to be respectful… rooting all the way down to their parents. Some of the things i have heard kids scream at parents, would have gotten you into millitary school for extra bad kids without a blink of an eye.

With the development of the two income family, and the fact that most “families” are now one income because of the fat that there is a 54% divorce rate, our society makes it almost impossible to raise children that have high moral standards. the fact is.. you have got to KNOW your kids, in and out… and it’s not the fault of any single parent that has to work OR any double income family that has to do that to survive… BUT there are major compromises made when you take what was once a norm of at least one parent at home, and change it to where kids spend more time in front of the television than in front of their parents. even I have been guiolty at times of pawning the kids off on my favorite babysitter, the television.

Theres no way to isolate blame… its a series of one thing or another that makes it too impossible to be a full time worker and a full time parent.

I dont work outside the house, and as it is I can barely keep up with my kids minds… and they are JUST 3 and 1. I spend hours a day workinf with them, folding clothes with them, they want so much to emulate everything I do… its what they are programmmed to do as babies and as a species.

Who has kids that gasped when they heard their precious 3 year old say “oh shit”??? Who realized that their kid learned every expression , every little flip of the head.. from US.

Like i said the other day, Zachary saw me standing on a chair to get at something high up, and then used that idea for himself. They dont wan’t sippie cups, they want soda cans, and they are hoping if they whine enough i will give in just to get them off my back.

FUCK THAT! What am I teaching my kid if i let him whine for ten minutes, tellhim no and then finally just give in because i am tired… I can not let my own tired, or anything get in the way of my developing child’s movement towards being a productive adult. NO one wants to be around somene that naggs until you give in.. and i wont let my kids learn to be like that.

some of you have even talked to me on the phone and heard me tell Zachary that i won’t acknowledge “MILK…..MILK…. MIIIILK”. He has got to ask nicely or he gets nothing. I do remind him a lot, but still the message is the same. You dont get it until you ask the right way…

my point.. oh yeah.

With the downfall of the family unit, has come a group oof people that watched their own parents cruelly batter eachother verbally and even physically. They have been witness to their parents bad mouthing eachother to them, they have learned that there is no such thing as respect… Respect must start from the top and teach down. Our kids dont know that its OK to not like something and express it in a way thats not hurtful. They arent learning to commit themself to long hard goals, they are learning that if we dont like who we married this time we can just change our mind…

how many readers here have TWO parents that are still married to eachother?

I am not saying marriage between bio parents is the solution.. i mean lok at my parents. i had a fucked up life and they were married 22 years, so of course thats not my entire point, but it’s JUDGEMENT that i am pointing at…

there was a show on tonight where these two people go on a date, and the chick is wearing something that i dont think i can classify as a cover appropriate for swimming let alone a first date. The guy is talking about his past girlfriends and how they were different in bed… the two hit it off and are making out in the car ride home while an audience cheers, and they dissappear in a hotel.

Lovely.

we just tought our daughters that to be attractive they have to show every inch of skin, and wiggle as much as possible.

we just tought our sons that instant gratification is more important than taking a while to really get to know someone.

the act of sex has become devoid of actual intimacy. people are filling a hole they have with something that cant possibly fill it… and on top of it all, they glamorize it on television so that we can all watch and either drool over the girl or drool over the guy and hope that they get laid later.

I dont think i want to ever “get laid”

if i EVER get near enough to a man to want to be closer to him… it will be respectful, slow, and not about who can prove they are a bigger slut. Respect comes from having your own code and following it even if theres pressure not to.

Respect came from don when he realized i wasnt gonna be having sex with him just because we lived in the same house, and were trying to see if we’d make a good couple. If any man would not take the time that I needed before giving up on me cause i wont sleep with him then its a sure sign i really dont want that guy anyhow. Besides everythig else, i have two young children, so if i ever mate again, i need to make sure it is with someone who is giving my kids the right messages as well.

that it is NOT ok to verbally abuse people, and sometimes if you lose your temper you must apologize and there are consequences. It is not ok to make decisions for the entire family. you are a unit and need to discuss things together before you start screeming that you are both wrong about whatever it is…

people that do that… didnt know eachother that well befoore they got married i guess. I konw that with me and chris, there was a serious amount i didnt know before i married him. Things, that would have actually made me go.. OK, uh NO. I was young and inexperienced… and damn its still not an excuse because now for the sakeof htese kids he will be the paternal role model, and they will worship him foir that no matter if he is an ass or a good guy.

where have we gone? i am so lost and confused about the family structure and lack of it… Sure, women didnt want to be submissive housewives anymore, they wanted to prove to the world they are equals…

hey you.. pssst, we are different creatures fromthe guys…

we all to often forget that we are merely animals and our sex drives ( or lack of) are only there to protect procreation of the species… sorry if you thought G-d created it for fun… not that it cant be but its fun so you will DO IT and therefore have babies… clever isnt it.

I am gonna get reemed for this, but i think a mother ( or fahter) can not nessecarily be a full time employee and then also a full time parent.(not nessecarily once the kids go to school, i am kind of more pointing at the early years now) I dont blame people that need to work to support themself, another part of it is that without a higher education, even a married couple can hardly afford to leave a parent at home. We are setting ourselves up for disaster even bigger when kids that were never parented appropriately become parents too…

I have seen it first hand. look at me who am I to talk, i wasnt parented right, but damn it i spend hours a day a week every minute going over what i can do to be a good parent, from reading online to talking to other parents, anything i can do i will because i want my kids to have more than just an upbringing,,, when they are introduced to the world on their own i want them to have a foundation securely made in self respect and respect for their body mind and fellow man.

hey I gotta run, the next dating show is on and i wanna see if the chick cheats n her boyfriend wtith the other guy… sorry, I will write more about values later after i am done wiith this show and then my shift at the psychic hotline…

-beth